Hi, you already realize this relationship is putting up large red flags. He is trying to control where you go, which is not good, but is using guilt in doing so (he should focus on his dughter and not you). That's way too much. That he's emotionally hurting you and from I can trying to guilt you into doing what he wants, is just not right.

He doesn't want to do anything, wants to keep you at in his room, and you said he is not happy. There may be many reasons for this, but are not connected to you.

I think this is one to give up NOW because I don't think it is drama, and I think it is much more and has absolutely nothing to do with you. There may be jealousy in having you out in public (some controlling men are like that and again, it's not about you, it's about them), it could be that he wants everything all about him (and you can't make a relationship on that).

This is one to let go as you're a good person and worth so much more than the emotional toll this relationship is taking.

Whoa Nelli! Red flag to the bull I see many of them. He is trying to control you.........chose shopping over me......focus on daughter........
And he is dragging you down. I think he has alot of junk going on in his life but none if it really has to do with you. You just came in the story in the middle. He is not really including you. Just wants you to be at his beck and call and read his mind.

Exit stage left. PLS. You do not deserve to be hurt at all! Guilt is his tool. Way too much on your plate. You deserve more than a relationship that sucks the life out of you, right?????? RIGHT!

Thanks, thats what i thought. My family is telling me kinda same thing. Just hard to do i guess.

I can't imagine, or I guess I mean, I CAN imagine what this( sounds like an abuser to me) man will do to you if you try and have a meaningful long term relationship with him, or heaven help you marry the guy..
Run away as fast as you can. Don't even think of looking back.

Just sad i guess cause i care bout him but i cant deal w this and i have a son i need to take care of too.

And I suggest trying for a clean break and not let him talk you into thinking about it or meeting with him, etc. I get bad vibes just from your post and what you told us about him. He may need a woman to verbally abuse to make him feel superior so try a good clean break from him by phone and then don't let him into your place if he comes by afterward. That's part of the clean break. Good luck and let us know how you do. Many hugs.

Well he told me not to call him today. It was tough but i didnt call or text him. Guess we will c if he tries to text me tm. i have decided if he tries to contact me im going to tell him we need a break for a while.

When you tell him "we need a break FOR A WHILE," it tells him there is still a relationship. That's not really fair if you intend on breaking up permanently with him. By breaking up FOR A WHILE it gives him hope you will be seeing him again and he will be texting and showing up at your place when he feels like it and being abusive. It doesn't stop it.

I suggest you tell him you are breaking up permanently and leave no doubt. Good luck and let us know how it goes and how you are doing.

I gave him several chances and all he did was hurt my feelings. Im done. I cant handle it. Im depressed. I was sad w him, butim sad wo him. How can i move on. Wanna stay in bed.

if he doesn't make you feel loved as a person.....he's not for you. we don't choose to be around "friends" that make us feel crappy....so dont settle for someone who is suppose to be your partner in life....

I know its tough....because I experienced (recently ) the same kind of thing...

Its easier to see to help others than it is for oneself at times. :)

You deserve love and respect.

Thanks, good to have support

Frustrated, the fact that you get more "depressed and confused" the longer you are with him is a GIGANTIC red flag and a very bad sign!! Our partners should support us and make us feel loved. Of course no relationship is perfect, but in a good relationship, you shouldn't feel more and more depressed. Your BF sounds very depressed and controlling as well.

All that back and forth would drive me insane. I know letting go is easier said than done but...

Best of luck to you, whatever you decide.