Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I had the most wonderful relationship until a couple months back. We made a bunch of promises that no matter what happened between us we would still be together as friends. To support and take care of each other. As time pass thingd didn't get better she said that she loved me but she said that she wasn't in love anymore. It hurt me but I was sure that we could get through. At the end she said that she didn't wanted to be my friend. That I didn't mean anything to her anymore. After 3 of thinking that we would be forever together. It has been two months since the last time I saw her. And yes, I've been crying nonstop. I feel empty I feel with no purpose. The only time I am okay is when in asleep but as soon as I wake up reality hits me hard. She blocked me from her phone and all social media. I begged her to stay but I guess that was my mistake which only push her away. It is so hard and unbearable pain. It breaks me to think that she is giving her love to someone and I can't do anything about it. Nothing seems to help me, no time no talking to friends not talking to new people...i feel like disappearing. My soul is mourning her loss.
I hate to say this but this might be for the best. If she can do this to you right now without any apparent reason, she could do it again. And again. And again. I suggest that you forget about the promises. But in fairness, when you said “As time pass thingd didn't get better” you need to honestly ask yourself if you did your part, that you did not neglect her or been unfair to her. If you did there’s a lesson to be learned there.
You have to learn to be happy by yourself. That is the first step. Living alone or being alone and yet be joyful can be learned. Do not bank too much of your happiness on someone. Some guys fall in love and she becomes almost the total source of their joy and when she is gone, it pushes them to the brink. In a healthy relationship you don’t lose your identity, you just form an intimate link with another person. Of course, it hurts, it is painful, but it will heal. In the meantime, enjoy different activities that will take your mind off her, some all by yourself, some with a friend, and some with friends.