I though this group was for break ups too, sorry if I posted in the wrong place

Latrish, how awful for you. On another post I saw a reference yo a book called the emotionally unavailable man. He kinda sounds like that not wanting commitment. It's all so onesided, you doing the loving and him showing no interest. The flirting with other women is just a smokescreen. Its highly likely he'd run from one of them too if they showed any interest. You deserve better. Welcome here to DS. I always find Fridays a slow day for posts, have a good weekend.

Honey, you didn't do anything wrong other than try and love a man that didn't deserve it. I agree, I think he would have done this with anyone and as hard as it is, the best thing you can do for you is give yourself space and time. I do understand how you feel because I'm struggling to let go of a man who walked away after almost a year together and when he did it...things had never been better. I was blindsided. I miss him like crazy and he wants to be "friends" but I told him he can't contact me because that just keeps ripping the wound wide open. You need to love yourself enough to take care of YOU. I get what you mean about wishing it didn't hurt so bad. Unfortunately, there's no way around it, just through it. Hugs!

Latrish, welcome to my world, although I really wish you did not have to be here and going through this experience. I too have had a recent break-up and I cant seem to move on. I have been praying, meditating and trying to get out and walk. I cant say I have saw any significant improvement yet, but I am really trying to focus on me. it seems he continuously creeps into my thoughts, like you experienced, he really was not as into the relationship as I. I can hardly stand to talk to anyone about it but I read that it really helps to have a friend that you trust to talk to, someone that will support you. I have had a lot of tearful moments as well, some days are better than others. I have also been writing about my feelings in a journal. I keep it close to write or reflect when I need to. finally I pray and ask God to put the broken pieces of my heart back together and let me move on and not be bitter. Try to meditate and focus on you and your health. hope you have a good weekend and be good to yourself.

Thank you so much for your reply

Latrisha, I am sorry for you pain but I am going to hit on something I find off about this situation and maybe I misread - but, are you in love with someone you have been involved in for 6 months and it doesn't seem like he's ever treated you like even a girlfriend? Are you in love or in lust? By what you are describing you have gotten involved with someone who's single and likes being single - he's having fun with the ladies and taking it one day at a time. Did he ever promised you or asked you to be his lady? You were hoping things would change if you showed him what exactly? What do you feel would be so different about you vs all the other women he prolly deals with?

I am not trying to be mean - I am trying to see if you can look at YOU. The issue here isn't the guy - he's being a guy. The issue is how you got yourself so caught up so quick and what you are willing to do and give to a man who hasn't shown you no signs that he's interested in being your boyfriend exclusively.

With that being said, I would recommend that you seek counseling - there are some issues I feel you need to address. Self love the main one - I am not judging, at some point in life we all make mistakes and we learn from them. I just feel you can benefit from counseling so you can see your participation in this situation and moving forward you don't make the same mistake.

So sorry for you pain and wishing you peace. Take care.