Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Jgarc 07/06/2013

I thank you so much for all your advice, but i realized that there is nothing I can do to heal this pain.

I dont want to live anymore. I gave someone everything I am and they just left as if I never meant anything. What is the point? Either way we will all end up being hurt again.

Why couldnt i find true love? I am a hopeless romantic and thats all I want someone to love me and never leave me.

I dont know where he is right now, he must be happy, it isnt fair. I dont want to be part of this world anymore.

Everyone tells me to let God take control of my life, I cant believe in God anymore, how can he want me to feel like this? Why would he want me to hurt.

I have a feeling that i will end up alone, and I dont want that. I need to end this pain. I dont want time to take its course.

stillbitterjaded 07/06/2013

You're right. You can't take a pill, read a book or push a button and everything is suddenly okay.

All you can do is wait it out. Everyday it gets just that tiny little bit easier. You don't even realize it while its happening.

gem111 07/06/2013

I guess I gave someone everything I had also. For 37 years, till he died. Every single bit I had.
I am living for myself now, and I will never go back. I am spoiling myself. I love my single life, doing what I want, when I want. I have had all the relationship stuff sucked totally out of me. No more will I give everything I have to someone else and totally lose myself.

You will find someone else if that is what you want, just take time to heal yourself from this relationship first.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

ChiTownBear 07/06/2013

hang in there.. seriously

deleted_user 07/06/2013

I too felt this way about six weeks ago - I even posted a "Thank you all for trying to help me, but I can't go on" post. But I held on for a few weeks and a ray of light began to shine through the impenetrable darkness.
The light is beginning to beat out the darkness - (something which seemed impossible just a few weeks ago). Please don't count yourself out just yet as this new light is quite incredible - I don't want you to miss it.

namaste02 07/06/2013

I second what Ardent said....

Hugs! Hang in there!

gettingitstraight 07/06/2013

As a guy I can say I tried to be the positive one for my kids and not show I felt the same way. But I do its been some time and i dont feel the same way blisters of light show through. That give me hope. Hang in there

deleted_user 07/06/2013

I also agree with the others. A few weeks ago, I too wanted to crawl into a hole and die. The pain and heartache were so great I too wanted it to end and I had thoughts, fleeting though they were, of ending it all. But, I got up each day, went to work, came home and took care of myself. It wasn't easy but with every passing day it wasnt quite as hard as the day before. It's been exactly 2 months to the day that my STBX announced he wanted a divorce and was moving in with another woman. My entire world crumbled in an instant, or so I thought.

It DOES get better. I still have bad days, days where I cry and sob, days where I am filled with rage but I'm working through it with the help of family, friends and my therapist. If you are not seeing a therapist yet I would strongly urge you to do so. If you have a physician, make an appointment to see him/her. I did and I am on antidepressants and medication to help with sleep. I can finally sleep at night. Although I lost 20lbs over the last 2 months my appetite is coming back. Life goes on for everyone here, it goes on for me and it will go on for you. I promise.

**********HUGS**********

deleted_user 07/07/2013

Hi Jgarc: WHOA, HOLD UP THE TRAIN. You are a good person. Dont you dare think of giving up your life for any reason, let alone because of what some jerk did to you. Youve got a lot going on, but youve got people here who care. Its going to take a while to get through this, but dont give up on you AND US.

Also, you have Depression that is talking and whispering in your ear. I look at Depression as that great big roach in that movie MEN IN BLACK. And you dont want to give in TO SOME GREAT BIG ASS ROACH. STOMP HIS ASS!!!! I HATE ROACHES.

Okay, one of my things that I do when I start to feel down is that I take myself to the local park and I just look at all the great things in nature. One day, the Canadian Geese were arriving in packs of 12 and landing on the lake. So in my mind I was doing the airport call:

Canadian Flights 1-12 now arriving on South Lake runway, then Canadian Flights 13-24 now arriving on South Lake runway, then Canadian Flights 25-36 now arriving on South Lake runway. And it kept going and all the Canadian Geese were arriving at that lake. It was packed and obviously the Canadian Geese tourist destination in the U.S. at that moment.

I have my cat's favorite video for you to watch then below is one of my favorite feel good songs. Watch both and feel good:

My cat sent you her favorite video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aYe1d5_LS0s&feature=player_embedded

Here is my favorite feel good music and it gets in my head:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=

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