Sometimes I feel like that too, but just have to remind myself that I am doing what I can after a bad, bad year.

Are you living alone? I find that when I have the place to myself it is easier to take care of things. If you are alone with children, then I do feel your pain as they require alot of energy and can really mess up a house.

no. i have an endless amount of time on my hands, especially since i dont sleep. i overlap everything i do- if im not doing at least 2 things at once i get anxious. work, school, volunteer, budget, hobbies... its a lot. but i make the time. not trying to sound simplistic or downgrade what you are going thru- its just what works for me. i would love an endless supply of work tasks- sometimes its really a struggle for me- even when things are overlapping. i crave to stay this busy- i make time for what i need to. the mess in my head sorts itself out thru my busy-ness.
all the best.

Hey Captiva4me4, no, I don't live alone and the people I live with are "collectors" of nothing... I secretly take excess of everything and give to goodwill, orphanage, church, to remove from the house hoping someone can use these things and when i blink, the stuff comes back in larger volume. I have been talking about this for a long time and it doesn't help. Living alone has been a long dream of mine but now with the baby (granddaughter) seems a far dream.

Oh......so sorry....didn't know that. Hope you can carve out a small space for yourself.....somewhere in the house.

my space is constantly invaded, so I am only free and happy when I travel for work or when I am out of the house. Parking the car in the driveway when I come to the house gives me the chills... I feel the strong desire to back up and drive away again. Today is not a good day...

I tried to tell another friend to force herself to take the time to unwind....to have some fun just for herself. It is so important to treat yourself well, because nobody else is doing that for you now....

Why not take yourself out to a play or a movie...even a concert. I am going to buy one season ticket to the local playhouse....and one season ticket to the symphony....yes it will be lonely, but since we have no one who cares about us, we must care for ourselves....care that we get out and unwind and have some fun....maybe for a moment only, but we hang on to those moments and we hope for better days.

ugh, you have no refuge. That IS a big problem.

I know how you feel. I have plenty of chores to do but instead I invited my D to go out just to goof off. "Where?" she asked. "Anywhere." I answered. Just out. Sometimes you just gotta (((HUGS)))

I know what you mean about living with "collectors" of nothing.... very very frustrating, depressing, overwhelming !!!

I remember discovering and reading the book, "When You Live With A Messie" by Sandra Felton... It really helped me to address this clutter problem in my household. In fact, it was one of the highlights in my own road to recovery!!!