I dont know when the hurt ends hon. Sorry but it's totally different from each one of us. What I can tell you is that it seems you have had tons to deal with and he should have been supportive. Try not to blame yourself. Oh and the knocking you down with the car makes me think this man is dangerous and does not care for you. For yours and the baby's sake, try to overcome the heartache and work on building a new life without him ((HUGS))

ok, now that you looked at things and picked out what you think are your responsibility, go back and see what he has done. bumping into you with a car, i don't care if you were standing behind it telling him he is a f---ing loser. no one in their right mind would move that car, let alone hit you with it. honey, work on yourself, think about that beautiful baby. let him go. you can have an awesome life, you and the baby.

When you dont take charge of your life, your life will take charge of you. With a new baby coming you got at least 18+ years to think about it.

So many screw things up with a war of the roses type deal. Sometimes one frivoulous arguement taken too far will ruin an otherwise fullfilling life.

I blame a lot on excessive power women have in courts....they cant help but act like a queen and demand "Off with his Head" over silly things. I blame a lot of that on Republicans , greedy corporations, and VERY FAKE mostly southern churches with Dollar sign eyes and lack of true faith.

This economy is so screwed and valueless that things will be even worse for that baby you carry.

When you start a family you have to stay focused on that family, and you have to be an active voter with real values.

This is not a world that revolves around ruthless think they can do it all women.

I am not making excuses for your navy man. All I am doing is giving you an eye opener of the shit world you are bringing a baby into.

If you find any comfort it will be with the thousands that are in the same boat as you. So, you are not alone at all. Together you all can accept the bed you never made. You can blame your parents, and society, and just do your best. Expect the state, your navy man, or some other man, your parents, or some 7 dollar an hour job to take care of your babies needs.

Maybe you should learn to vote too.

you know, i do believe my baby can have a good life.
when i work i make quite a bit more than 7 dollars an hour.... and now that i have this baby, and will be a single mom there are options for me to go to college paid for. just have to work with the system...
i have paid lots of taxes... i have no problem being on the system for a while... its not like they are giving me much to be honest.
im looking for work back at bartending.... so i dont have to claim tips.. so it will show that i dont make much and can keep my medical benefits through the state. im in a rough spot.
he left me without a pot to piss in.... he left me the change jar...
and alot of hurt feelings of abandonment. its hard to forget. this did not happen over the course of time... this was sudden... he bailed out when i needed him most.... my brain knows i should forget and move on... but my emotions just sit there in the past. its a hard internal struggle. and i know its unhealthy thinking that is causing these thoughts... feeling like its my fault. cause it isnt. he asked me not to work in my normal job... cause he knew i wanted a different one. ... then i got sick in the searching process while being pregnant... i have to go to hospitall for IV's. im starting to get better, but that is a day by day thing... my blood pressure is still very low.
he thinks i should have worked at mcdonalds to help him out with rent. sure, money was tight... but not so tight that he couldnt go to the movies and such.... he had 3 bank accounts.... the two for bills was empty.. the one for fun had like 1400 in it. his fun. rent was always paid, so was bills. broke to him means he dont have money in all 3 accounts. he would rather go out than get me a 89 cent taco from taco bell. he was never that way before. it just hurts, that he would throw this promise of family away.... throw me to the side like some dog... this was a planned pregnancy. our second. i lost the first. now i am alone again. i thought he could be it for me.
i know he was immature... but i thought i coudl deal with that. wait for him to grow up, caues he was nice and stable, it seemed.
who knows anymore..... how do you ever know you were right till its all said and done and you lay on your death bed old and wrinkled together. ....
and NOOB.... this world is so much shit because people like you are permitted to breathe... ive never seen a positive post from you anywhere for anyone..... im sorry and i dont know what happened to you to make you so bitter and opinionated.... but it doesnt matter,
if i were to agree with you you would just argue. and i am alone...
no parents, no man, and i will not rely on someone else to take care of my baby, because i am the only one who can provide and be what he/she will need. cause in this world i can only count on myself. i learn that over and over again. and i will use this shit system and economy as much as i can... till i get to a place where i never look back. i am smart... i will find a way somehow.
without people like you to tell me i am doomed to a shit life.
when you get used to rolling in shit.... after a while it doesnt smell like shit anymore... its just a part of life.... you dont even notice it stinks.