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The stress and grief over the last months has taken a visible toll on my health. I have lost weight and trust me that is not good. I need to gain about 10 pounds. I look at myself in the mirror and the exhaustion and pain are so visible on my face. I look positively craptastic.
I have improved my diet to healthier, denser, richer, non processed foods. I am trying the best I can to get more rest and spend as much time outside as I can.
I read, I write, I draw to calm myself. But still it has taken a visible beating on me.
I will say the change in diet has improved my nails and hair which during the last divorce took a beating.
I wish my emotions did not show on my face - bu they do. I always smile at people, even total strangers but clearly it shows. I had a man approach me in a parking lot a few months ago and ask if I was ok. It must really show. He gave me a huge hug.
My last day of work was about a month ago (school system job) and I walked out of that building with my favorite 5 year old next to me so I could take him home. The social worker saw me and said "Amy, that is the first time I have seen you really smile in months". I was happy to bet out of there, trust me - I had a crap year at work. I cranked the car stereo, he and I sat on the hood of the car acting the fool, waiting for his mom to join us.
I did some research on parasomnias as I have had some in the past, and sure enough I apparently cry in my sleep and it shows.
Has anyone else here experienced significant physical changes because of the stress/pain?
I have improved my diet to healthier, denser, richer, non processed foods. I am trying the best I can to get more rest and spend as much time outside as I can.
I read, I write, I draw to calm myself. But still it has taken a visible beating on me.
I will say the change in diet has improved my nails and hair which during the last divorce took a beating.
I wish my emotions did not show on my face - bu they do. I always smile at people, even total strangers but clearly it shows. I had a man approach me in a parking lot a few months ago and ask if I was ok. It must really show. He gave me a huge hug.
My last day of work was about a month ago (school system job) and I walked out of that building with my favorite 5 year old next to me so I could take him home. The social worker saw me and said "Amy, that is the first time I have seen you really smile in months". I was happy to bet out of there, trust me - I had a crap year at work. I cranked the car stereo, he and I sat on the hood of the car acting the fool, waiting for his mom to join us.
I did some research on parasomnias as I have had some in the past, and sure enough I apparently cry in my sleep and it shows.
Has anyone else here experienced significant physical changes because of the stress/pain?
Be well.
I am stressed to capacity .....
Do weights, build some muscle, get strong. Listen to music that motivates you while you workout. You will gain the weight that you need, possibly get your appetite back, and create lots of much needed endorphines.
I hope you feel better soon :)
Stress kills and it can bring on a number of illnesses.
That is one of the reasons I do go for forgiveness for anyone.
I am the one I am saving, not them. It is not easy sometimes, but YOU will live a much healthier and happier life.
The secret is having gratitude for what we have--even if it is the air we breathe and self care. Doing things for just yourself, that you enjoy, even if it is as simple as a bubble bath or a walk, anything.
Good luck Amy, I hope you feel better and get yourself back on track real soon.
Good luck to you. I'll take the weight loss you didnt need. I could use to lose 10-15-20 lbs. :)
Yep their is no gift like the gift given be awareness of your wife/husbands infidelity
ThAnks honey
I also like to listen to jazz (Dizzy Gillespie, some Herbie Hankcock). The great thing about jazz is that I don't have to listen to music with words. I can't listen to love songs or breakup songs, and that's like 80% of what comes on the radio.