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frstperrygrl
frstperrygrl
What happens to the posts that nobody or very few respond to? Have you ever noticed that most of the ones that get answered are ones that really don't need the help or the one's that are very very needing help. Why is that? Do we just not make the time for the others or do we just don't care? I have seen alot of posts that really don't get answered much at all. How do we determine which ones need the help? I try to answer alot of them but sometimes they just slip away. If that person is new what do they think or what might they do? I for one have posted about 7 or 8 posts on here at different times and I think 2 have really had some answers or replies-what ever you want to say about them. The others just slip away with maybe one answer on them. I guess I'm lucky that I really didn't need anyone or it could have been a sign. Is it in the subject or what? Please, help me understand because I am sooo doubting alot of this. I like helping people but it does work both ways and not sure how many are out there like me to help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
often it is the timing.. most late night posts get answered.. during the day , things can slip by..... sometimes if the weather is beautiful folks are simply not online..... just my two cents worth...
deleted_user
deleted_user
For myself, I am newly separated and unfortunately don't have much to offer in the way of "will it get better?" and "can't stop feeling this way" because I am still there myself. I do enjoy helping where I can, and do so to the best of my ability.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have wondered about this as well. I hate to say it..but often times it seems like a popularity contest to me. How many responses to an oral sex thread and how many to someone who really needed some help. While I understand the stress of divorce all too well and the need at times to lighten the mood,I do still have to question this too. Just my 2 cents.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Frst - I agree with cherub - It's often a timing thing - Sometimes there will be people on who can relate to a particular post and sometimes not.
deleted_user
deleted_user
on a lot of sites where there are a large number of people it seems that most posts do not have a long "shelf life" anyways.
I do not think it is not because people do not care, it may just be because there are a lot of people searching for answers.
what may not seem important to one person could mean the world to another.
I have received great advice from one or two people and often that is all it takes.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If I see a post that is really crying out for help, and one that I have some experience with, many times I send that person a message. I miss most of the evening posts since I get up at 3am during the week and go to bed early.
deleted_user
deleted_user
sometimes i just dont agree with the post. i cant offer support to those that are dating when they arent divorced which pops up here along with the court questions which many of us are muddling along with. you can always bump the post to help it circulate again. many times the posts are so many that it just moves off the first page within minutes.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes I think many times it is timing.
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