Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I've overcome a lot since mid June. We were having issues but that's when he blindsided me with the separation request. I remember the night through my shock he seemed relieved that I said ok. He was happy and playful with the boys, and I thought that was odd. But my saying yes made it easy for him to take his emotional affair I later discovered through phone records to the next level. He probably did before that. So I had to deal with discovering after 13 years this major change and his eagerness to hook up with several people he met online--all while trying to keep it together at work and for the boys. After 7 weeks of hell, I was able to move out and away from the betrayals and evidence of...
Now 7 weeks later, he's getting ready to move out of state and I find I am feeling anxious but calm (if that makes sense). I know it is another adjustment, but I've overcome a great deal of emotional trauma and know I am capable of bouncing back....we are resilient beings....
Now 7 weeks later, he's getting ready to move out of state and I find I am feeling anxious but calm (if that makes sense). I know it is another adjustment, but I've overcome a great deal of emotional trauma and know I am capable of bouncing back....we are resilient beings....
His having an emotional affair and seeking your release must have felt awful. But even worse if he tried to have a mistress on the side - to have both of you.
1)don't accept his emotional affair bullshit, cheating is cheating being intimate in any way with someone is infidelity, it came be bumping uglies, melding minds, knotting hearts, all of it, any of it, is breaking the vows
2) his moving out of state may be hard on your kids but I hope it gives you some distance, it still cuts me to shreds anytime i see my wife, it opens all the sutures
3) keep being who you are - your kids need you and you need to accept that deep down you are a good person, do not let that bastard cloud yourself in your own eyes
It seems hard now, but it does get better, as the anger subsides, and life begins to fill with other, positive things.
I am five years post divorce and my x's affair, and his affair ended up being just what I needed to get move on and get on with my life. I am in a much better and healthier place now.