Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Earlier tonight when I was at my local grocery store, as to buy a couples days worth of food, everything at first was going okay, the good feeling I had from completing another support group meeting an hour before, so feeling okay with myself, I ventured into the frozen food section, Standing in front of the pizza section I notice two people coming into the isle, no biggie at first, then I glance at their direction again and notice it's a couple, young woman, kind of older guy, I could tell they were very much in love, holding hands, doing that bumping their shoulders softly into each other thing, smiles, and the eye's............the way their eye's looked at each other with that drippy, sappy love look it hurt! There I was, not trying to look to obvious, but occasionally glancing at them my thoughts drifted off to "you know Aaron, that used to be you right there" and I thought "I remember strolling through this store with my ex-fiance the same way these two are doing" and thinking "I remember what that felt like, I miss that"!
As they walked past me I glanced down and saw that these two were very committed to each other, matching rings on their left ring fingers! After they exited the isle, I stood there, alone, emotional, heart wrenched with the memory's of what was, feeling no ill will towards an innocent loving couple who just happened to get near me. So as I stood there in the center of the isle, I lifted my lift hand up to where I could see it and looked at my ring finger, which has now been empty of it's engagement ring for little over 4 months. I stood there looking at now an empty ring finger and remembering what it felt like to wear a ring there and be claimed by another.
Before I let the isle and just before putting my hand back down to grab the hand basket, while looking at the empty finger for an instant I could almost feel my old ring back on the finger! This was getting to much to take, I grabbed the basket, marched my a** to the register, paid, and got the hell out.
While scootering back home in the cold of the night I couldn't stop crying! For what I saw tonight for some reason really rocked my emotional core! Again I have no ill towards the innocent couple, they were there to buy food, not purposely stir up memory's and emotion inside me, just these simple little things that this couple did produced a fire storm inside me!
Not being able to do with someone what I witnessed tonight................it just hurts, that's all!
As they walked past me I glanced down and saw that these two were very committed to each other, matching rings on their left ring fingers! After they exited the isle, I stood there, alone, emotional, heart wrenched with the memory's of what was, feeling no ill will towards an innocent loving couple who just happened to get near me. So as I stood there in the center of the isle, I lifted my lift hand up to where I could see it and looked at my ring finger, which has now been empty of it's engagement ring for little over 4 months. I stood there looking at now an empty ring finger and remembering what it felt like to wear a ring there and be claimed by another.
Before I let the isle and just before putting my hand back down to grab the hand basket, while looking at the empty finger for an instant I could almost feel my old ring back on the finger! This was getting to much to take, I grabbed the basket, marched my a** to the register, paid, and got the hell out.
While scootering back home in the cold of the night I couldn't stop crying! For what I saw tonight for some reason really rocked my emotional core! Again I have no ill towards the innocent couple, they were there to buy food, not purposely stir up memory's and emotion inside me, just these simple little things that this couple did produced a fire storm inside me!
Not being able to do with someone what I witnessed tonight................it just hurts, that's all!
I'm sorry for your pain, I truly am.
It's the small innocent "real world" things that get can hurt! Things that I can see with my own eye's, like the couple in the store, that can hurt. Or I see a loving couple sitting outside of Starbucks, laughing, smiling, the eye's of love, and sipping on their coffee, that hurts to. Fro some odd reason, since my breakup in mid July, and my ex-faince's departure on August-3rd, I sure have had a heightened sense for spotting couples in love, spot them every where! It's like my damn eye's are a magnet for it now, I can't answer as to why, it just happens.
But thank you again for posting, I hope both of you are doing as best you can with your respective situations!
I remember the first few times I went grocery shopping after we split. Damn, that hurt. I was so used to looking for things that both of us liked, looking for low-sodium things for him (high blood pressure), etc. There was something just devastating about shopping for one.
And seeing the couples....like a stab in the heart. Thinking, "That's what it used to be like, when he was mine and I was his." That's what it was like when I used to come home from work and he would always make sure that the light was on so I could see my way to the door. I used to be one of a pair. And now I'm not.
It still hurts so much sometimes, doesn't it? You're not alone, Aaron.
Kind thoughts to you.