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The human side of life

Rman
Rman
I have been thinking about life lately...specifically, how people interact in the "real world." I work in a tax and accounting profession, as well as at UPS...different worlds, but I see many people on a daily basis.
One thing I have noticed, is that once people open up to me, they tend to have a different personality than would be expected from their day to day interactions in the "real world."
It's almost as if everyone is walking around, putting on a fake face...
The people who I used to perceive as being so serious, or professional, are actually now some of the most shocking people I have ever seen...
Just like the nice UPS driver...
not is all what it appears to be...
HeaveToo
HeaveToo
LOL....In my profession I get to see the darker side of life. You would be amazed at what humans are capable of. It is sad.
JennyMe
JennyMe
w o w
deleted_user
deleted_user
I very much have to keep a professional profile in my day-to-day job ... but I escape to music festivals every once in awhile to let my soul feel free ...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Very perceptive, RMan, and very true. Some of the most conservative looking people I know, who walk the walk, talk the talk during the day become some of the craziest party people at night. It cracks me up. It's like they are so tight and restricted for 8-10 hrs that they burst out the seams when they are free for the evening. I am very bubbly and a bit of a chatterbox by day, but at night I want to wind down, cuddle up, and enjoy some peace when I can get it. You just never know.....
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm pretty much the same everywhere I go. (much too my boss's amusement) LOL
deleted_user
deleted_user
I worked with a guy the other day who had a shaved head with a tattoo saying this side up with two arrows pointing up and under that the word Fragile above the neck line.

Good conversationalist :)
Rman
Rman
Nice to see real people here...that's why I like DS...
it is real and I am real...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know what you mean. I can be one of those people that have to put on a fake smile. cause I do not want my patients feel bad for me I want to be there for them it not about me when I am doing care for them. It is about them. Sometimes I do make it about me but not at work.
deleted_user
deleted_user
when I'm at work, I'm "on".

Auntie Mame, but for the drug-addicted, violent teens, I gave up the ones with silver-spoons in their mouths for lent about 8 years ago. My shtick is to be high energy, humorous (I know!!!!), and sarcastic until the art therapy part of the period. And always "present", alert, trying to keep small crises and crimes from happening.

When I'm out, at least these days, I'm exhausted..so stupid silly with my kid...and heavy when I'm here.

I dont think any of those are fake, I'm just "compartmentalized".

If I brought my serious side to work, I'd be eaten alive.
patti22
patti22
My ex is like that. People that know him one way are usually very surprised to know him the other. Especially the ones that know him as the quiet concervative guy, wouldn't believe how much he'll change after a few beers if he's in a bad mood.

Me, I'm alot the same everywhere. Probably too serious, and it's not easy for me to relax and be funny.
GeocacherNY
GeocacherNY
do they put on a fake face, or do we only see what WE want to see, until/unless they show us more of themselves, then WE adjust what we Thought we saw, based on their looks, actions and relatively few words
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am too stupid to remember any lies I tell so I try to be as authentic as I can. That way I don't have to remember.
deleted_user
deleted_user
People do what they have to to get through the day.

Sometimes, that involves a facade.

Sometimes, it involves a support website.

You never know what is going on with people.

I share an office with a guy, and I'd bet he has NO IDEA what I go through (and vice versa) on a daily basis in my personal life.
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
I would have to concur with DAB, many people act in accordance with where they are, who they are with or what they are going through. Some would act different here on DS, versus how they would act around their family and friends off DS. Some, while at work act more reserved, then how they would act while relaxing at their home. Then there are some, who just act the same everywhere.
meddle
meddle
Well I may just be screwed in the big scheme - I tend to present and remain the same, virtual and real life.... OK, maybe even boring... But, I do know what you are saying, it takes all kinds and I take and give with all kinds... what a merry-go-round....