Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My husband cheated on me with several women. One of who is now carrying his child. I feel like he doesn't understand how deep this hurts, and how this impacts our relationship. He's very sorry, and wants to move on and act as if everything is ok. There's so much I can't get past. For starters he cheated on me with a girl he works with. I didn't know it, but should have suspected it because he would tell me how pretty this girl was. This is what he told his wife about a woman he was working with. To make matters worse he knew that I struggled with self esteem issues.
He slept with the girl who use to live next door to us. He did this while I was pregnant with our child. He had the nerve to have this slut that he was sleeping with knit a blanket for our child,and actually gave it to me. How low down and disrespectful is that? Oh, I never used that filthy blanket on my baby!!!
One night I was at home alone again, and called him because I had spilled boiling hot water on my hand and my hand was in soooo much pain. He was still at work and told me he would be home in about 2 hours. That was at around 8:00pm. This man showed up the next day around 9:00am. He said he fell asleep in his car. I had been calling him non stop until suddenly his phone would go straight to voicemail. I suspected something was wrong that night because when I called him I heard a female in the background. Why didn't I confront him about it then!!! I get so mad when I think about it!!! I should have confronted him, and just put an end to what we had!! Maybe I would have saved myself any further heart ache.
He made me feel so low down, ugly, embarrased, and ashamed. I hate what he did to me!! I'm a good wife, mother, and friend. I hate the pain that I'm still in. I'm better then when this all first came to light but sometimes I think about what he did and I just can't take being in the same room as him.
I know that I'm strong and I will get through this because I have been getting through it and taking it one day at a time. I sometimes want to fast foward 5 years and see where I'll end up. Problem is, if I fast forward 5 years I'll miss my son growing up:)
I just had to vent. Thanks to anyone who reads this post. Everyone please be strong!!
I know you're tough, keep venting when you feel the need. Are you in the process of divorcing, or are you still hanging on, because he's "sorry" and wants to get back together?
It was really devastated for me and I can't even begin to imagine the pain my mum was suffering...
I'm 31 now, my parents are still together and to be honest, I think it was the biggest mistake ever!!! My mum "forgave" him ( I don't think you can forgive something like that) You can try, but deep down in your heart you never truly do.
Since then, my mum has never been happy again. She agreed on having the girl visiting my dad at home every second weekend, but it's been a year now since she is living with my mum and dad full time. It's been horrible for my mum!
You have to think that a child is not something that is gonna suddenly disappear out of someone's life.
I can imagine how you are feeling, cause I saw my mum struggling with her emotions for years. And to make it worse, the woman that had the baby with my dad is only 4 years older than I do.
It was pretty hard on my mum self-steam.
My suggestion, deep breaths... It's gonna hurt like hell, but let him go.
We were living together at my mothers house when I found out what happened. I kicked him out, and have since got an apartment for me and my son. My husband has basically moved in; however, he is not on the lease.
I do want to work it out but it's hard. There's so much pain. I'm getting better but it's still hard. I believe in second chances but I have to know that even if I give him a second chance it doesn't mean it will work out for us.
The ball is in my court, who knows. I may just throw the ball away.
I am focused on myself now. Improving one day at a time. Introducing new friends and people into my life. Positive people. Too much negativity in my life the last few years, physically draining. Therapy and my divorce group have been extremely helpful.
Wishing you all the best. Stay strong and positive.
-HUGS-