Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I was talking to my therapist today and she asked me how I am doing. To my suprise, I told her I am in a good place right now. This RO has been a blessing. The no contact rule definitely works in helping me moving on. I told her, I learned how to be alone and not be afraid of being alone, of course my DSers helped. I am learning to be with myself. Not depending on my wife has given me a new found freedom that I needed. I have learned on how to like myself and not be with anyone. It has a feeling of being calm and happy.
As long as I have my kids, I don't care what she does and who she does it with. I think I am passed that.
I told my therapist I think I might be in denial, but she told the denial would have came earlier not now. She thinks it is for real and she is proud of me. She even asked me if I am seeing anyone, I told her no, I am not ready for that.
One of the reasons I feel good is because of all my friend in DS. All the support I have gotten from everyone. I am so lucky I found this site. It has been a blessing.
As long as I have my kids, I don't care what she does and who she does it with. I think I am passed that.
I told my therapist I think I might be in denial, but she told the denial would have came earlier not now. She thinks it is for real and she is proud of me. She even asked me if I am seeing anyone, I told her no, I am not ready for that.
One of the reasons I feel good is because of all my friend in DS. All the support I have gotten from everyone. I am so lucky I found this site. It has been a blessing.
I think I've done better here than with my therapist. I'm thiking of keeping my therapist because it's a good write off on my taxes.
I actually remember talking to a friend that just separated, and many problems he is facing would have had a much better outcome if he was in DS I think, and understood he was not alone, and learned from others ways to cope. When ppl divorce and try to be better real quick, measuring themselves with coworkers and people that have not run into divorce, they are likely to make some bad mistakes. Not acknowledging your real needs and trying to push yourself harder when you need to slow down can cause irreversible problems in your life. I learned DS is a safe place for me to vent, to share, to learn, and find people I can show my vulnerable side and not be judged. Ah, and I love the hugs...lol
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I almost slipped up tonight and told my ex that I'm doing so well because I have this as a support system. But I don't want him to know about it!
On the other hand, there is a commonality that we all share. Be it abuse, neglect, infidility, the list goes on and on...we all can relate. We feel the pain, we understand. You are not alone. Often, we question ourselves...what happened? why didn't I see this coming? Maybe, if I did this, then this would not have happened.
Woulda...Coulda...Shoulda...
The healing process begin with the individual. We owe this to ourselves and that is to take care of us....mentally, physically, spiritually, financially. Handle our business with the x...civil. Yea, I know it will be hard to be civil, but it can be done.
Apply the no contact rule. However, anything pertaining to the kids is an exemption. Learn to cut the line, when the chat is no longer about the kids.
By now, you have discovered that the people here are awesome. They are supportive, funny, smart, critical, wise & I am proud to call them friends. Take Care, friend.