Why do any of us do what we do? Idk I guess its just life. I look at my life and I feel like Ive wasted a lot of it on stupid people doing stupid things that got me nowhere. Im middle aged and what do I have to show for the money Ive made and things Ive done? Well...really nothing. Its kinda sad really but Ive come to realize practically everyone else is in the same boat. Sure some have a home or lots of stuff or a vehicle or two but really what does it matter? Ive lost everything two times in the past 7 years and I still fight everyday to make my life better. Why? Because the alternative is to lay down and die and frankly that sounds pretty boring to me. I understand what you are saying but its just life. Unless you have some higher calling to help the poor in India or something like that life is just a daily struggle for whatever you need at that particular time. I dont really think your thoughts are unique or that you are alone in them. We live, we do some stuff, we try to be good people and then we die. Nothing we can do about it....its just life. Peace to you and I hope you find the answers your looking for.

What you are feeling and thinking is a totally normal part of the process. Life is a tough battle and going on after divorce makes it a much tougher battle. It's very hard to change our thinking and accept the new reality that we are OK without the other person. In fact we can do a lot better when it was a very toxic marriage. I am struggling with the same feelings and thoughts. After being very recently divorced, it is hard but getting better. It helps me to think of setting specific goals And taking small specific steps so I can see behavioral progress. I try to see the changing feelings and thoughts as A normal part of the recovery process without being too discouraged by depression and anxiety. I try to think of it as recovering from emotional heart surgery just like it takes a serious recovery from physical heart surgery. Hope you feel better and have a good weekend.

Ezzy's line, "We live, we do some stuff, we try to be good people and then we die". Those are my exact thoughts, although I've never expressed them out loud. Thank you for putting them down in words. The flip side you hear so much is that life does have a greater purpose for each one of us, but when I can't find a greater purpose, other than raising two kids who will "live, do stuff, be good, die" it kinda makes me feel useless. So, big deal I guess, I'm as useless as the next person. :)

I feel like that a lot lately.

I'm not healed. Sometimes you just need to let it be and feel like crap for awhile.
I think what's wrong with this world today is somehow it's not "okay" to just feel reflective and lousy for a bit.

It's always get over it, take a pill, see a counselor to figure out why you feel poorly after your life has been turned upside down.

I'm grieving. I know it. Don't feel like being happy right now.

Its really hard preparing to be alone and single minded when you have been in love an no one seems to be able to change your mind. Not even you. Im here with yo. Completely alone inmy home for the first time in 5 years and it makes me just wsnt to lay down an watch the seasons change. No motivation. I have no one truely.

I'm recently in this exact situation. My wife moved out 3 weeks ago after 10 years together and 3 years of marriage. I suddenly feel like I have nothing to offer the world except sadness. I joined a gym to keep moving and to get a bit of much needed dopamine. I look around the empty place and wonder what my purpose is anymore.

Lately my goal is to just get through each day. Sometimes I wonder if I'm resisting breaking down or not. I don't cry, I just hurt. I really don't know how to be anything without her. I see and talk to her on occasion and she seems pretty unaffected by the whole thing. I wonder to myself how long she had been planning to leave.

So for now, I suffer a bit everyday and hope something will click. I make sure to get dressed and shower every day. I try my best to concentrate on my job. I just want to make it, and I have a feeling I will. It's going to hurt for a while.

We all have been there Andrew. Im still processing a lot.

Some days are okay, some not.

Give yourself all the time you need.

You are not alone:)

The only way to get througg it is by letting go or nature will do it for you. From experiance i know it hurts less when you ler go on your own as hard as it is.its worse when its taken from you. Like my choices to be in love treated well and not stand around getting cheatee on if i dont want too.

I agree with Ray. It is a lot easier just to let it go. Hanging onto someone or a situation that is no longer working for you will only make you worse and what purpose does it serve? Do you hope that the person is coming back or if the situation will suddenly resolve and all the turmoil that is happening will suddenly be gone? Likely if the relationship is over there is no purpose to hanging onto the hurt. I know its not as easy to actually let go but everyday I try to tell myself I deserve better and Im tired of the crap. Take the time you need to feel better but dont dwell on the things you cannot control.

Yes, it's totally normal. I think it's probably wise to be in contact with a therapist just so that you can get some help when you're having those moments - but yeah, I'm there too. Often. So, I get it and I'm sorry you're feeling this way.