Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Today I receive a dozen roses and card "happy anniversary". I told him this was the day. I suggested dinner "maybe". What am I thinking? Several breakups, then a date Sunday to communicate, get closure on the last unspoken breakup that lasted a month, though emotionally we started to re-bond after he just showed up unannounced on Thanksgiving and I got caught back up in his world. Ok the guy is not 100% bad, I mean who is? The point I am trying to get to is what am I going to do tonight and aren't I tired enough of this DRAMA? What kind of anniversary is this where the situation is where we are not even boy-girlfriend anymore because we can't handle it, I'm not willing, even if he says he's willing I know he'll end it again like he has 5 times. Oh God. Tearing apart, not breaking apart. Closing the door inch by inch and what is left but repairing the damaged and no good and hanging onto memories and false hope and "love". I don't want to be in this situation. I know no one is perfect. Why am I so willing to be in this situation?
TSand
Don't be so hard on yourself. Often it takes time to let go. We will only bang our head on the concrete so many times before we get some sense knocked in. Your mind seems clear, now it is just a matter of getting your heart to pay attention.
deleted_user
Sorry, I have no clue! Honestly, I don't know what to say! If you love him and feel that there is a chance, then I say, go and be happy! If there is a chance he is going to pull the rug out from under you again, I say STOP and re-think are you really willing to start all over again in the healing process?
deleted_user
You are so willing to be in your situation because you love him. Simple as that. If you were to continue down this path, will you be absolutely happy or scared of the future? Do you feel that you have a future with him even though he could end it for the 6th time?
deleted_user
Set boundaries. When you do meet with him act strong. Put on a front if you have too. Do NOT let him see your weaknesses. If you have to suck it in, do it. Then after he leaves, when he is gone cry your heart out and comfort yourself. Sometimes men (and women) think they can toy with your emotions because they know they will never lose you. They know they have you wrapped around their finger. It is up to you to show him that you are done, but will be friends and suck it up when your around him. Tell him there is no chance of getting back together and flip the script on him. It's ok to still want him, just don't let him know that.
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