I am going through the same thing. I have 3 children with my husband separated since December 22.2016. The worse day of my life. I can really relate. It hurts to see him and there is no emotion there at all. I'm going to pray for the both of us.

@justwannabok--its so strange that I am just reading your post right now--literally driving home tonight I felt the same way. I have been separated from my husband since September and every once in a while I will wake up in the middle of the night reaching for him. That happened to me last night :( I miss him, I miss cuddling with him. I miss talking with him and it hurts as well when I do. While we dont have children together, we have dogs that we share. It's hard but day by day I have to move on with my life the best way I know how and hope that as they say time will heal my heartbreak. I am much better than I was a few months ago but it is days like this along with nights like last night that put me back to when he left. Sending lots of hugs your way! :)

Ugh sorry. Try to keep busy and not think about him if he doesn't feel the same way. It's hard but better in the long run - is what I keep telling myself!

I miss mine as well. Dream about him every night . It's been since April an I need him so. I can't move on, we made so many mistakes but he is done. Kills me. Everyone says it's for the best but my heart won't let it go. Oh well

At night your at rest and your brain is still processing and you are also trying to detach.

Grieving and detaching has a life of its own. Willing it away only causes delayed grief that comes out in very unhealthy ways later on. Hugs

Thanks everyone!!

Hey JustWannaBOK.. Breakups are tough. If you are still hurting that much, you havent had closure yet. I dont have any answers to how to feel better, wish i did, if i did i would be applying them all... Talk about your feelings... anger, sadness, happiness, whatever that may be... There are some really amazing folks on here, some of which are as good as therapists. Do you very best to stay positive, do things other than just for your children, do your hobbies, activities, whatever makes you happy. Get therapy if possible, if not groups like this will help guide you. take the good and filter the bad info... Remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE... We are all feeling this way to some extent.. I feel so much better when i think of all the good things about her. Its tough, but i know it is easier to think of the good points of us and be sad, than thing of the bad parts of us and be sad if that makes any sense.... Wishing you well

My heart hurts for you. Going through a separation/divorce is one of the most horrific things a person can experience. I know - I have been there. I now work with others (volunteer) who have been divorced. It truly is a grieving process and can take years to fully come through to the other side. Even after that, life is somehow never the same. I don't tell you this to discourage you; rather, I tell you this so you don't feel like you are going crazy. This was your other half - for better or worse - and losing that just takes TIME. Have you tried any form of counseling? OR, what I have found was really helpful was DivorceCare classes. They are offered in many locations around the country, and also have in many cases a class for children. They will teach you about grieving, and you will have others to lean on when times are tough. I can say that you are not walking this journey alone. Prayers for you and your children. Please try to find counseling. Even if it's with a local church - that can be helpful as normally that is without cost. You will be able to survive - and you will be one tough cookie when it's over, let me tell you! But I know you can't see that yet. Hang in there. All my best to you.