Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
HEY EVERYONE... I FOUND THIS AND THOUGHT OF YOU GUYS. SO I DECIDED TO JUST COPY AND PASTE IT FOR YOU.
BIG HUG FOR EVERYONE AND I DO ALWAYS WISH EVERYONE THE BEST.
10 Tips for Surviving the Holidays
- Practice being non-reactive with your ex. Many emotional buttons may be pushed during the holidays, so develop an awareness practice to just observe your emotions and not react.
- Enjoy the time you have with your kids, and avoid focusing on how the holidays have changed because of your divorce.
- Avoid making the holidays a competition between you and your ex. Focus on the big stuff like being to together, playing games, and creating traditions. Keep things simple and avoid buying expensive gifts and planning extravagant celebrations. Become aware of any unconscious desire you have to make the kids feel guilty about spending time with your ex.
- Create new traditions that celebrate the whole season without focusing on one specific day. Involve grandparents and other family members in making these new traditions.
- Cultivate a generous spirit and help your children shop for a gift for your ex. Decide if the gift exchange will be with your partner or separate. You may want to avoid celebrating the holidays together because it could foster a fantasy that you and your ex will get back together.
- Be proactive and collaborate on a parenting schedule for the holidays in October. Put it in writing to make sure you're both on the same page.
- If your kids have to travel out of state, make these arrangements well in advance and share the details with the your ex.
- Try alternating where the meals are going to be eaten instead of requiring the kids to sit through more than one meal on the same day.
- Figure out who is responsible for handling childcare during school break.
- Keep the dialogue going with your kids during the holidays. Ask them what they want and how they're feeling. Give them choices and within reason respect their decisions.
I know it is hard guys, and I am sorry. Just remember to be in control on how you perceive what these days are. They are not a big deal. What is Christmas but just another day. It is a Saturday followed by a Sunday. You have spent countless of Saturdays and Sundays at home and you are ok. This is just another weekend.
It is up to YOU to either view it this way or to view it like a holiday and it is the worse thing in the world to be alone on a holiday. One mindset will get you through this easily and at peace. The other will bring you misery and discomfort. Which do you choose?
To me, it is just another day. I will make it special for my daughter and the rest of my family and I will be happy to see them happy. BUT I am not expecting anything for me and it is not about me and to me it is just a weekend where I can get a much deserved rest from a very difficult year. That is what I am doing for ME... I am going to rest and be HAPPY because I can finally get some rest.
GET IT??? It is about finding the joy in the little things and keeping a strong mind. You decide how you will perceive this weekend.
I SEND YOU ALL A BIG HUG AND ALL MY LOVE AND POSITIVE THOUGHTS
(THINK ABOUT HOW MUCH MONEY YOU ARE SAVING BY NOT HAVING TO BUY HIM/HER AN EXPENSIVE PRESENT. hehehehe)
