I consulted with an attorney and explained my case. I wanted to be enlightened why my husband used the hardship attributable to me as a ground for divorce and accused me of being a borderline. My husband has been depressed for long time and had panic issues originating from his childhood. Before we embarked on long distance 10 months ago, he promised to go to a counselor. His issues were mainly about his stressful job. He had changed jobs and countries 4 times in 5 years. I knew that my husband was also additionally stressed out with the marital responsibility. He often told me that he is frustrated with the family life. While we were apart, he visited a counselor regularly. He did not tell me in details what he was discussing with his counselor but I know that he was given antidepressant drugs.The long distance was difficult for both of us. In December, he began acting strange. He invited me to meet his friends and made me drunk (he admitted later that this was intentional) and his friend took a photo of me and a guy I havent met before. When we had a fight because I wanted to see his cellphone, he called the police and told them that I threatened to break his cellphone (which is partly true). Three months before the divorce, a common friend told me that my husband asked some people who knew me for my recommendation letters. What I found strange, was he also asked the girl who I had a bad chemistry with. I dismissed any bad thought on this as I trusted him. A few weeks before his announcement, he was asking me all the time on skype in written form, about my studies ( he knows that I have difficulties) and I confided to him that I would like to give it up and join him. One week before easter, we had a fight over skype (again written) because I got upset that he did not book the flight. Out of anger, I wrote him that even if he will not come I will be fine but I also took my words back later on. Two days later he said he booked it but just one day before he was supposed to come he sent me an email that he filed for divorce and went on no contact. One week later I received the divorce papers and was totally shocked. He used the counselor's testimonial against me. His counselor wrote that according to my husband I triggered his mental diseases because I cannot handle life situations very well among other bad things. He also made his counselor wrote that I have a severe mental illness. His lawyer wrote that I have a borderline syndrome and that this marriage with me is detrimental to my husband's health.I searched what borderline stands for; and some descriptions are totally untrue ( being reckless, having many sex partners, abusing drugs, suicidal ). It was also written there that I refused visits. The lawyer I talked to said that my husband just wanted a quick and easiest way to get out from the marriage so he used this tactic. I could only rationalize that since he finally found a permanent job in the UK and I am only now a burden to him, he needs to get rid of me.
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