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mooseymoo 07/07/2018

I’m stuck in the middle of fighting for my husband or giving up and starting everything over. I already had to leave to go home and quit my jobs and leave my friends and my home.

Hes so depressed he’s at the point where he’s feeling nothing. He doesn’t seem like he wants to either. And because of that he’s giving up our marriage. He doesn’t want to try anymore. He doesn’t want us anymore.

But he promised me, how does someone love you and marry you then later just change their mind. I want to fight for him because I know he’s in a low place, but man this is killing me. I’m sick, I’m losing weight because I can’t eat. I can’t sleep without sleeping pills. I’m always miserable and never happy. I don’t want to do anything or talk most of the time. I don’t want to move forward with a divorce because I don’t want to give up and lose that entire life. I’m so hurt and I’m just so unhappy and I hate this. I know he’s better than this and right now it’s like he’s a different person. And I can’t believe someone I love this much with everything in me that loved me too would do something like that.

I feel hopeless for future. I want a family and love more than anything and I saw that with him. I can’t imagine having to do it all over.

spacetwister67 07/07/2018

I am still in this place...and it is heartbreaking. I have no words of wisdom, but just know you are not alone.

Yard_Eggs 07/07/2018

Is your husband under the care of a medical professional for this depression?

If not, please encourage him to get help. Or drag him kicking and screaming to get help. Depression afflicts its sufferers with extreme apathy and lack of interest. Perhaps his lack of interest in both the marriage and getting better is just a symptom of his depression.

mooseymoo 07/07/2018

Yes he is being seen by a therapist and psychiatrist. Not on meds yet but should be by the end of July.

enfieldguy 07/07/2018

I’m struggling in my marriage as well (as usual) as my wife has been out of work on and off for a year, she’s drpressed and miserable and I work from home and have to see it all the time. It’s putting a major strain on our 21 year marriage so if you wanna talk and share feel free to hit me up.

Yard_Eggs 07/07/2018

My SO is diagnosed with chronic depression and chronic pain - a very horrible combination. It is very difficult to maintain a stable relationship under such conditions.

Hopefully professional help and medications can alleviate much of the trouble, but in the meanwhile, ask yourself how you would treat your husband if he was diagnosed with a dibillitating physical (rather than mental) illness. That little exercise proved very mind-opening for me and rather liberating also.

Bella_Lee 07/10/2018

Hi @mooseymoo I'm so sorry to read what you are going through. I just want to encourage you not to give up on your marriage. Your husband will need you to fight this battle for your marriage because as you know he is not in the mental state to do it myself.
My hope for you is that the professional intervention and meds will begin to help your husband start on the road to recovery. Do you have any support from other members of your family or maybe even consider counseling for yourself to help you through this time.
I pray that there will light for you at the end of this tunnel.

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