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enfieldguy 07/22/2018

I’m not broken up or divorced at this point but my marriage of 21 years is not the same as it was and it makes me very depressed.

My wife is currently on vacation visiting her friend (and ex boss) who lives in Florida. This is the second separate vacation she’s taken without me since March and our marriage has been distant over the last year since a huge couple of fights.

I feel a distance but she doesn’t feel it she says. We were in counseling but stopped because it triggered my PTSD too much.

Anyhow being alone in this big house reminds me of my awful childhood and our separation a decade ago and I’m just lonely and depressed.

Could use some friends. I’m posting here because I assume there are people in bad and distant relationships on this board as well.

boribori 07/22/2018

Sorry to heard that, it’s hard to feel lonely. That is one of my fear. Is her ex boss a male?

Adam1967 07/22/2018

Hang in there. I can tell you that there are thousands who share your feeling and I am one of those. My wife just asked for a divorce after bout 25 years of marriage. I feel scarred, lonely and lost beyond what I can describe in words. Feel free to reach out to me to chat or vent. I also need to do the same.

Fadedgypsy 07/22/2018

Chances are she's not on vacation she's getting ready for a life there I'm fixing to serve you up divorce papers you need to start covering your butt your assets and they prepared just saying

boribori 07/22/2018

Just like Adam1967 said, scare. That how I feel, scare to be alone after all this years with someone that you love!

enfieldguy 07/22/2018

Boribori her ex boss is a female, I couldn’t handle it if it was a male and I doubt we’d make it through her wanting to go on vacation with another man.

enfieldguy 07/22/2018

Adam, sorry to hear what you are going through, it certainly is horrible. I feel very stuck. I don’t want to be alone but being like this isn’t much better.

enfieldguy 07/22/2018

FadedGypsy, I wouldn’t be stunned if she was thinking about something like that. She’s not close with her family up here and currently doesn’t have a job so there’s not much tying her to our area. As far as assets and such I’m screwed no matter what we’ve been married more than 10 years so she gets half regardless.

boribori 07/22/2018

Well that good. Man all I can say is to try it to work it out specially if you two have kids. I’m in a bad situation and I’m busting my ass to keep the family together. Good luck, and if you need some to talk, their are a lot of people in here going to Similar situation

Osheana 07/22/2018

Sorry for the distance between you two-sometimes you can see more that there is- Iused to do that- in other words you have your own perspective and
sometimes it is convoluted trust me- I have been through it. I cant
give more advice because I do not know what the fights were about--
so cant really elaborate but in any event- separate vacation =Indication
that she needs space -something is suffocating the relationship. It actually
never gets better until both parties are 100% honest- but in any case-
please stay strong and use the time wisely and to do self partnering
and self nurturing.It is important to do so!! ; ) You will feel better.Positive
energy and encoragement sent your way.

TheWay1 07/24/2018

Sorry this is going on. I just want you to know that I am praying for you guys. Hang in there.

just229lost 10/02/2018

Need a male view on this------I married my husband young and its been about 15 years, and he have a hard time showing that he love me. I love my husband and I am a person that love to kiss and be held, but out of 15 years I can count on one hand how many times he has kissed or held me. He thinks sex is the fix all, granted I love having sex with him, but because of the way I have been feeling I have not been in to it as much as I should. I have tried to tell him how I feel and he always tell me if I give him more sex he would kiss and hold me more, but it always end up with him getting what he wants. Truth please am I reading to much into this should I just let it go.

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