Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
So today is the day...stbx is in surgery right now. I'm not there (at the hospital), no idea what is going on or who is there with him. I know he doesn't deserve my support after kicking me to the curb and after everything he has done to me, but I can't help but worry for him. It is a pretty major surgery. Feeling anxiety and I know I will hear from him at some point from the hospital (tomorrow or Sunday probably) despite the fact that I made it clear to him I wanted no contact. I know in my head he doesn't deserve me or my support, but my heart still has a desire to take care of him for some reason. I will continue to stay strong and will not waiver, I'm just experiencing a flood of emotions right now that I'm trying to power through. Thanks for listening everyone!
He cheated on her several times, got one of his little chippies knocked up, was mentally and emotionally abusive to my mother. So why did she do it? Because that's the kind of person she is. In spite of the abuse she has suffered she is not one to turn her back on someone in need.
There's no shame in being concerned for his welfare. After all, you were married to him. It's only natural to be concerned. Now that some time has passed for me I don't think I could turn my back on STBX should something major happens to him. I don't want to treat him as hatefully as he has treated me. My conscience wouldn't allow it.
Wiggy, from history you already know your STBX is a user and abuser and if you take his call, he will whine to you and his intention will be to try to heap guilt on you and get you to take care of him when he leaves the hospital..So don't set yourself up for the abuse and don't pick up his call. Let him call someone else. He needs to get his own life and depend on his own relatives. Your sympathy has run out for helping him and then he abuses you.