Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Wow, I feel ashamed to admit that I am still coping with the loss of my Mr. Wonderful after 2 years. He wasn't worthy of the relationship and I hate that I still think about it. I know that what I miss is what I hoped for ... not what we actually had. It is so hard to keep reminding myself. Everytime I think about him I have to literally remind myself how selfish and inconsiderate he was. Then I have to tongue-lash myself for even having to "cope". I think what I am really coping with is the loss of a life that I could see us having. It is so funny how we can fixate on something that isn't even in reality. I haven't been well physically for a while and some days it keeps me from working... the depression from feeling lousy and being alone while I am feeling lousy just adds to it. I know in the grand scheme of life that I am actually fortunate that I am relatively ok... I have a roof and a job and I do have friends and my health at this point is not so bad as to keep me from doing most things... I guess I just feel alone. I mad a decision to move back to my hometown to pursue a nursing degree. I have been here about 4 years now and I am waiting to get into the program. With any luck at all I will get in this fall. But I have NO friends here. My family is a little dysfunctional so I dont have any support and most days I just feel so alone. Sorry to bore.. just wanted to get this off my chest. Thaniks
Sometimes when our energies are low, our mind will reflect on all our losses...it's just how the brain works. There's nothing wrong with this,..unless we get stuck there.
It sounds as if you have alot to be thankful for :O) and I'm sure this will take precedent over any negative feelings.
Negativity is actually a very, very draining mind set.
[cheers to all the good in your life!]
(hug)
I'm sorry that you don't have family and friends there but you always have us!
Lynne
I understand completely. I was divorced two year then started dating a gal up until October and spent a great deal of time thinking about what could have been with her. Of course I too realize that there were far more things she was NOT capable of as opposed to being capable of, especially her inability to relate to parenting and children and my kids come first.
I have a few health issues too and I know just how vulnerable that can make you feel. I wish you well and encourage you yo keep writing here. There are some truly amazingly experienced and compassionate and supportive people on this site.