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Still feeling the pain

TML67
TML67
It has been almost one year since my Wife and I separated and now we are divorced, we were married for 15 years and have 3 children. I am overwhelmed with grief and I falling into a very deep depression. They say to give it time, but some days I feel time is running out
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so sorry. Did the divorce become final recently?
Rman
Rman
Maybe call a doctor, who can prescribe anti-depressants, or adjust them if you are already taking them...then at least you can wait for the possibility of something better happening than just slipping into a dark hole...
deleted_user
deleted_user
don't lose faith or hope...just be patient...take time for yourself...been where you are...it is gonna take baby steps but you will make it...

your children are worth it...most impotantly you are worth it...

*bro hugs* my shiny nickel
TML67
TML67
Yes...July.....She was my rock and the person that was always in my corner.....it's like losing a limb and just can come to terms with it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I looked at your profile and noticed you're on medication for Bipolar disorder. I would definitely follow Rman's advice ~ call your doctor and have him adjust your meds. It's hard to lose your support system (rock), but deal with the medical stuff first and then you can work on healing from your divorce.

Feeling sad is one thing, but feeling like "time is running out" means that you should call the doctor, asap, 'kay?

(((TML67)))
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thats how tou may feel now but just think how much better you will feel tomorrow and the next day, and so on.
My divorce still needs to be finalized and I hate her and life everyday, but not as much as the day before. All's that does is hurt me for feeling that way.
Hang tough and think positive thoughts. Beat the demond!
deleted_user
deleted_user
TML - I feel for you! It does take awhile, one year seems like a long time but it isn't, keep writing and talking, you will make it through, I agree with others that say to see a doctor...
deleted_user
deleted_user
You said "now we are divorced".....and if this was recent, it can set you back. It's been 3 years for me and even though I am doing really good now, there are days where it just hits me really hard - still. I just started divorce this year and the day I found out the last "official" date we would still be considered married, I had a major breakdown. I wish I could tell it only gets better and up from here, but it does not. But the good days will be more and more, the down will be less and less.

When you do feel sad, allow yourself to feel and know its okay, but also remember how far you have come. A year is nothing yet, but if you think back to the first days and weeks and if you think about how far you have come since..... Think about your kids and all you do have.