Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I waited a long time before dating again after my last breakup and even longer before investing seriously in a relationship again. I don't feel ready now but I wonder what I mean when I say that and whether that is a good reason to stay single.
The man I finally jumped all in with after I had been single for three years had just separated from his wife. I saw him go through the pain of his breakup and how much it helped him to have me there. It made me wish I hadn't tried to go through my breakup alone. But now, after 2.5 years I think that maybe part of the reason he left me was because I had been a crutch he no longer needed. It makes me feel used.
Now I'm torn between wishing I had someone to lean on to ease the pain and knowing what a horrible thing it is to use someone like that. I really believe people need time to rediscover themselves after a relationship ends and too many jump into another one because it feels good. But maybe I need to feel good for a while too.
The man I finally jumped all in with after I had been single for three years had just separated from his wife. I saw him go through the pain of his breakup and how much it helped him to have me there. It made me wish I hadn't tried to go through my breakup alone. But now, after 2.5 years I think that maybe part of the reason he left me was because I had been a crutch he no longer needed. It makes me feel used.
Now I'm torn between wishing I had someone to lean on to ease the pain and knowing what a horrible thing it is to use someone like that. I really believe people need time to rediscover themselves after a relationship ends and too many jump into another one because it feels good. But maybe I need to feel good for a while too.
But the truth is I'm still emotionally attached to my ex and it feels like being unfaithful. I still don't want to even imagine being with someone else. I guess I should welcome the good feeling of knowing other men find me attractive and listen to the bad feeling and give myself more time to recover before dating.
I'm trying to develop my friend network but it's hard in a new city when you don't know anyone.
dating should be fun.. try not to overthink or get too far ahead of yourself. just look your best, have new conversations, and try to move forward in a positive way. everything will fall into place.