Dunno but good for you for not falling for it. And speculating about another person's motives is a huge waste of time.

In point of fact I heard a discussion on NPR yesterday where prosecutors were saying that they don't even have to show motive. Why? Because no one knows but the person committing the act.

I agree, you shouldn't go with the restraining order. Remind her of that if she pushes the issue.

Since she included the kids and got so upset about you having a "date" this week, my guess is she is having reservations about losing you.

Very smart of you to say no. No doubt this is the "payback" she was figuring from your post yesterday.

Document everything, including this invitation, in case there are problems later on.

Wow, she's a real of piece of work. So sorry you have to deal with her.

Not sure what she's doing but think ya made the correct choice. Some are just so under-handed and too involve your kids just isn't right on so many levels...

Tell her to drop the order and you will be glad to eat with the family - if that is what you want to do!!!

How can she even call you without violating the order herself? You should talk to the police and/or your lawyer about her trying to get you to violate the order. You're smart not to fall for it.

My ex-husband was going through his third divorce when he was diagnosed with leukemia. His STBX got a restraining order, claiming she was "terrified" of him, while he was laying in a hospital bed hooked up to tubes! After he got out, she called and pitched a fit, demanding that he bring her some boxes she'd left at his house. Foolishly, he put them in his truck and drove to her place--where she had him arrested for aggravated stalking because of the restraining order! The fact that SHE called HIM insisting that he bring her stuff to her didn't carry any weight with the police.

Be very careful. I would agree with the person that said to tell her to drop the restraining order and you will go. Tell her you don't want to end up in jail.

I also agree with document, document and document.

She might be having second thoughts.

Yeah, I have been keeping a list. Its in my journals.

She sounds like a major manipulator, passive aggressive, game player. I'd say you called it right and I would stay back away from that one.

I agree with sockfuzz. If she knew you had a "date" it gets them thinking. All of a sudden your a commodity again. Interesting. Wish I could say this was the first time I'd seen this. Does she need money or out of a relationship. Like Begin said, it's a waste of time to figure it out, but with a restraining order, I'd stay away, too. Sometimes a restraining order is what the opposing lawyer does automatically as well to keep boundaries.

I suppose you could tell her, if she wants to have contact with you, to ask that the RO be dismissed.

There are 2 protective orders and one RO against my husband. Legally, he's not supposed to have contact with me or our daughter. I don't enforce it. In fact, we are trying to get the PO's modified to allow for peaceful contact.

the night b4 we were supposed to go to court for her contempt case(which i won), she emailed me about the taxes.i have a restraining order stating i cant make any contact unless emergency by the kids..i think she wanted me to make contact with her so she could bust me..i think she finally realized i want NOTHING to do with her ever...sounds like she is trying the same b.s.

i just realized something. My stbx probably thinks she was being nice to me and I am an ass for saying no.

I know she is going to twist it so I get in trouble.

agree with fibro,the person who got the restraining order cant make contact, buth the person who asked for the order is allowed to make contact, which in my case is stupid..i dont believe she should make contact either,but the legal system sux.

That's why you keep a record of her crap- she can and will twist it all she wants, don't let her push your buttons.
You did good!

Sorry she is still up to her antics