Well I have been married for 24 years to a liar and cheater ( although to be fair he says all of his affairs were not sexual) the last affair at least the one I know of stbx stayed at her house because I kicked him out and he said he had no place to go so he claims at first he stayed in the guest room now he calls it the couch ( ok whatever you say ) in 2014 he was still not with a stable job and met with his father to get money after all his father has been paying his bills for 7 years including his health insurance while the kids and I have to have medical assistance because I can't afford private insurance. Well stbx father told him if he files for divorce he will put him back in his will and he will be taken care of, well that did not go well with me or the kids now age 17 and 20 yrs old , so I told him I will not get a divorce so he is taken care of so stbx left and had me served the weekend of our younger sons birthday. This time he filled 3 days before Christmas of last year ( oh with the other divorce he stoped it and said he wants to come home yeah I was a sucker for that) well this time I have an attorney and she is accepting the papers to be served to her office so that the kids do not answer the door at home like last time. Stbx did not have contact with the kids I blocked his number because he was not helping them with the healing process but two month ago he said he would be more careful what he text to the kids and I opened that door and he did not text anything bad but yet nothing good, his text were as if nothing was wrong and he wants to take the kids to dinner, this is from someone that can even afford to pay his own bills , the kids refused and said they are not comfortable with that. Well the update today is stbx has lied again he has stayed at an old friends house that we both knew 15 years ago this friend is 10 years youngr than stbx and I and he has a record of DWI, speeding and domestic Domestic violence and assult. Well the DV case I guess she did decided to resind the case so it never went anywhere, is what upsets me is stbx says he stayed at his house a few times because he was too tired to drive back to his mothers 45 minutes away and they had some drinks and he just passed out and to top it off when I said to stbx that is not setting a good example and not an good place for him to spend time at he said " well let me come home because I am not driving 45 to work and 45 min back and he is planning to live with his friend and his friends wife. OMG I became upset and angry at the same time , he has no clue what he has done then and now and he is once again with an enabler that he told him private things about me and the divorce, who is he to decide to put my life out there without me being present to defend it . So I told him what he is doing is wrong he should be focused on getting better with his bipolar, and supporting the kids in the healing process and stop thinking about himself. I don't have the option to say " oh I don't feel like working my 2nd job so I will just go to a friends house" or even the thought to stay with someone that has a record speaks of his level of stupidity. I said to myself this man has had several affairs , lied several time, used me and the kids for his sick way of attention , used the kids and I for him to get what he wants from his father and has no remorse no regret and still has no problem sleeping . Ugh it just angers me that he continues to lie to me , he said well we are getting divorced so its none of your business where I live or who with, my reply it is my business when the person your living with has a record and you want contact with the kids you need help not another enabler. I hate letting him get the best of me and I hate feeling angry and that here we go again feeling , how can a father be so stupid and make such a careless call to live with someone with a record and then have the guts to ask to come home because it is close to his work. He has no clue what he has done and it just makes my blood boil. I know I need to take a deep breath , count my blessings and believe that what I am doing is not only the right thing to do but also knowing he has not changed for the better of himself and our kids just really makes me mad. Ugh !