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Somerdad34 09/04/2008

She called me 2 hours ago.

She told me that she is tired and will drop the Restraining Order on me.

She said she misses me, she doesn't care if I am seeing someone else, she misses me being around. She wants me in her life in some form.

The call lasted over a minute. She did all the talking and all I could say was "OK".

I am so confused.

What do I do now? I've been living on my own, I've been trying to move on with out her in my life.

I am actually scared of what's going to happen when she drops the RO.

deleted_user 09/04/2008

What has happened in her life to cause this change of heart? Do you know?

Somerdad34 09/04/2008

No idea, and I didn't care what was happening in her life.

deleted_user 09/04/2008

Be careful. I'll tell you this, she just voided the RO by calling you. Call your lawyer and tell them that she called. Be careful though, what is she tired of? Why was the call so quick? Sounds fishy to me...

Somerdad34 09/04/2008

The call was quick becasue she called me at work and I didn't want to talk.

deleted_user 09/04/2008

I'd say you continue to move on. Do you really want to let someone like that back in your life after what she had done? Let your lawyer do the negotiating with her.

deleted_user 09/04/2008

Sounds really weird. If you have a lawyer, call them. You should tell them that she called you, the RO will be dropped, then see if she still wants to be with you. Maybe I'm overly suspisious but, it sounds like a trap to me. If you meet up with her she can have you arrested. And if you called her she could do the same. So be careful.

deleted_user 09/04/2008

Do you think she's sincere or just lonely?

deleted_user 09/04/2008

I'd tread lightly there...unsually when they start being nice, they are up to something & then turn on you in a second! (My experience anyway.)

deleted_user 09/04/2008

You don't have to make a decision today. If you can be civil to eachother, that would be great. Have legal papers in hand before you step foot into the house.

Take it slow and easy.

deleted_user 09/04/2008

Thats what I said Joybean. Sounds weird right???

deleted_user 09/04/2008

I agree with the others, something doesn't add up here... although as I've said before, just remember past behavior predicts future behavior. Good luck!

Somerdad34 09/04/2008

She sounded sincere and sad.

deleted_user 09/04/2008

Maybe I'm misunderstanding this whole thing. Is she asking to be coparents and to get along or is she asking to get back together?

Somerdad34 09/04/2008

She wants me back in some form. She wants to be able to talk to me again. I don't know if she wants me back as a friend or as a husband.

deleted_user 09/04/2008

If she wants to be friends and you can do it for your children that would be wonderful. Start there and do what you want for you!

I think to be able to pick up your children and say hi, how are you doing would be great. To be able to give her you work schedule in case one of the kids got sick would help all involved.

You can take this so slow. 5 years slow. You can date if you want.

To be able to be there for Thanksgiving and Christmas as friends could be great for your children. To be able to Santa shop for the kids would be great too.

I think you've been offered the olive branch. A peace offering.

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