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ZhaneZhane
ZhaneZhane

my ex and i recently broke up after two years. despite the many times he was cheated on and lied to me ive always taken him back. everyone thinks im crazy for giving him chances after chances, but no one knows him like i know him. and i feel like giving up on him wouldnt be fair considering the fact that thats all he knows. hes never had someone just actually be there for him. anywho. the love i have for him is very unexplainable, and theres literally nothing i wouldnt do for him. he has recently gotten locked up and we've exchanged letters. he has written me and told me that he wants to make things work when he gets out, but im at the point where i kinda wanna make things work but then again i dont wanna make things work. i honestly dont know what to do at this point. should i give him one last or should i give up and move on.?


Raindropsonroses
Raindropsonroses
Breathe. It's hard to accept that we can't save some people, but they'll use us as long as we let them. Perhaps being locked up will give you the space you need from him so that you can take the next step in your healing without him. Be well.
movingon2016
movingon2016
I made the same decision to stay with my husband. After 22 years of marriage i found out when I attended a domestic violence group that he was manipulating my emotions and tearing me down with his mental abuse. I thought I was staying for him and he promised to never do it again. His promises mean nothing and now i'm dealing with so much more with him.

I believe in second chances. But there comes a time when you need to let go.
QuietStorm
QuietStorm
I know you probably cant picture your life with out him, but try. Imagine not being lied to, not being cheated on, not having broken promises. You are young, you don't have to continue playing these games. Learn to be alone and one day you will move on. You WILL be happy again, there is no doubt about that!
Ineemole
Ineemole
You should not be in a relationship where you are not happy.
jojored
jojored
When you repeatedly give chances to someone and they repeatedly let you down, you're giving them permission to mistreat you. You're saying that it's OK, they can be abusive and you'll keep taking it. You made up that "kick me" sign and placed it yourself on your own back. Then showed it to him. That's how I now envision what I did in my nearly 30 year marriage. You're doing him no huge favor either, by letting him continue his bad treatment of other people. Oftentimes people who let others abuse them do so in all of their relationships. Examine yours to see if this is a pattern with you. It can be stopped with conscious choice, but most importantly awareness. Be strong!
Lenoire
Lenoire
This unexplainable love that you have, is unexplainable for a good reason. No one needs to know him like you do to be able to tell you that yes, you are crazy to take him back. I can't tell you how many times I've heard abused women use this line. It's bullshit and manipulation, and once you have enough distance from him, you'll see it.

My best advice to you would be to go and see a therapist, because the bond you describe is not healthy, and sounds like you may have a case of Stockholm Syndrome, where the victim sympathizes with their abuser.

Wishing you well.
HopelessInlove
HopelessInlove
Quietstorm, can u elaborate please?
Lotessa
Lotessa
Honestly... get out of there asap! At the end of the day it's NEVER about someone else, it's always about you... You can live without him, but you can't live without yourself!