Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I've just broken up 2 weeks ago. I was in a relationship with another girl for two years. She had never been with a girl before, in fact, I was her first..everything..her first kiss, her first sex, everything (she was 21 and I was 25..it's common where I live to be a virgin at that age).
At the beginning she did say her concerns..that she couldn't date me coz' of her parents and her religion (catholic). But we talked about it, and after a few months, she and I decided to just go with it and be in a relationship.
Almost 2 years later (April 2017) we decided to move in together and adopted two kittens (she LOVES cats). And then we started to argue a lot...(I don't know why, but when we lived together, even small things could become big)..until one day when I just got home from work, I saw her playing with her phone and I asked her who she was texting with..she got mad (coz' it wasn't the first time I asked and in my defence, it was only the 3rd time and when she was texting she was so focused on her phone that she couldn't respond to anything). We argued again (I sort of had a feeling that she might have a crush on her boss), and that night she admitted her feelings for her boss (which was a guy)..but said that itsn't a big deal, he has a girlfriend and she just adores him, nothing more. But she wanted to break up with me because she can't lie to her family anymore.
It hit me really hard.. I seriously didn't see it coming. And then we moved out, and I started to feel like..I've lost everything, I didn't even feel like living anymore. All of my activities, my work, my time revolved around her..and now with her gone.. I don't really know who I am anymore and what to do with my life! I was thinking of ending it all..coz' I feel like I don't matter anymore..
I'm a teacher, and I've started to lose my passion in teaching.. I really don't know what to do.. I'm not even sure that I could ever love again... She made me feel like being in a same sex relationship is really wronf and made me question every single aspect of my life!
tomorrow is my birthday and I really don't see why I need to celebrate my existance when it makes no difference to anyone or anything whether I exist or not.
That said, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Go talk to a therapist, go get help, go hang out with other people. IT will take time to get over this. Give yourself time and a chance to remind yourself who you are.
Good luck.
Then after you catch your breath, start to focus on how you can make your life yours, this is the stage I'm starting so I can only give you the advice I have recently been given. If you two always went to a certain store or restaurant, try another one. Watch a different TV program then only the ones you watched together. Change your routine, and surroundings that are a constant reminder of that life.
I hope this helps some. Keep your head up. You are not alone.