Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Its been almost 8 months since my breakup and I'm starting to think Im never going to be able to move on. Last time we spoke was 3 months ago.
I have done so much since the breakup to feel better. I started seeking counseling, taking antidepressants, catching up with old friends, seeing family, researching and trying positive affirmations to help me build my self esteem back, etc. Im not sure what else I can do.
There is not a day that goes by that I dont wake up with thoughts of him or think of him throughout the day. Never hating on him, always remembering the good times we had and how much I loved (and still do love) him.
I really think he was the love of my life and I miss him so badly sometimes that I just dont know what to do. I would reach out to him, but I was the one to do it before, and I just cant do it again. Its unfortunately in his hands. Knowing him, I know he wont reach out to me even if he sits at home crying over me just like im doing.
I have good days where I will feel fine. Recently Ive really been feeling lonely though. I setup an OLD profile a couple weeks ago. I have since taken it down. I just dont feel right about it.
How long does this take? I go back and forth with feelings and thoughts. I just wish I could feel one way and stay that way. One minute I think I'd like to date because Im lonely, but then I get sick to my stomach thinking about actually doing it. No man actually appeals to me right now. I only want one person and no one else will do. I almost feel like I would be cheating on him even though we are not currently together.
I dont want to be alone, but I only want him. How on earth do you move on? I have never in my life felt this way before.
I have done so much since the breakup to feel better. I started seeking counseling, taking antidepressants, catching up with old friends, seeing family, researching and trying positive affirmations to help me build my self esteem back, etc. Im not sure what else I can do.
There is not a day that goes by that I dont wake up with thoughts of him or think of him throughout the day. Never hating on him, always remembering the good times we had and how much I loved (and still do love) him.
I really think he was the love of my life and I miss him so badly sometimes that I just dont know what to do. I would reach out to him, but I was the one to do it before, and I just cant do it again. Its unfortunately in his hands. Knowing him, I know he wont reach out to me even if he sits at home crying over me just like im doing.
I have good days where I will feel fine. Recently Ive really been feeling lonely though. I setup an OLD profile a couple weeks ago. I have since taken it down. I just dont feel right about it.
How long does this take? I go back and forth with feelings and thoughts. I just wish I could feel one way and stay that way. One minute I think I'd like to date because Im lonely, but then I get sick to my stomach thinking about actually doing it. No man actually appeals to me right now. I only want one person and no one else will do. I almost feel like I would be cheating on him even though we are not currently together.
I dont want to be alone, but I only want him. How on earth do you move on? I have never in my life felt this way before.
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/17912929-betrayed-and-after-all-these/lastpage < the story.
He was my first love. The first man I ever actually let into my life (and that was finally at age 21!!)
I do know how you feel. I miss having that person that I never went a day without hearing from or seeing. I can't fall asleep properly as the only time I could sleep before was when we were together.
I miss the man I loved. And perhaps still do. But I am tired of fighting so long fir what I love. For once I wish he would fight (if he does feel that way) but I know he wouldn't.
Everyone here has given great advice. It will take time. Hopefully at some point there will be a day we go without thinking of them. I had that a bit before he contacted me again out the blue. You have to stay strong and do what's right for you.I feel lonely but do not like the idea of going out to clubs and "getting some" like my flatmates suggest. Never been my way. Never seek a new relationship simply out of loneliness. Speak to friends and family. And if someone comes along then great :) Hopefully it will happen.
This site is great for venting. So vent away and hopefully you will feel even a little better!
You are doing all the right things...therapy, spending time with family and friends, etc. I believe that everyone heals at a different pace. I really thought I would be one if those people that 5 years from now would still be drowning in my divorce, but I am not. Please know that better days are ahead if you. Don't go around the process, go through it and in the end you will be better off.
Sorry you are going through this but please believe me in that it will get better!