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I post a few weeks ago about the controling relationship I was in for 7 years.
Now I am packing out the house and moving out of state and I am happy about that and feel free again. However, I can't seem to let myself feel any sadness over the break up. We did have some great times and those I miss....but I do know if I feel sad over it? I start to tear up sometimes, but stop almost as fast as I start. In the end, she was a real b#T*h and I almost thing I hate her.
I am also feeling fear over any new romantic relationships that may come along in the "tomarrows". How will I react, will I be able to trust? Or should I just remain single? Will I have expectation in bed? Will I want to share the same hobbies.....do you see what I'm trying get at?
Will I compair someone to my Ex?
Are these feeling normal, or do I need a shrink, lol.?
Now I am packing out the house and moving out of state and I am happy about that and feel free again. However, I can't seem to let myself feel any sadness over the break up. We did have some great times and those I miss....but I do know if I feel sad over it? I start to tear up sometimes, but stop almost as fast as I start. In the end, she was a real b#T*h and I almost thing I hate her.
I am also feeling fear over any new romantic relationships that may come along in the "tomarrows". How will I react, will I be able to trust? Or should I just remain single? Will I have expectation in bed? Will I want to share the same hobbies.....do you see what I'm trying get at?
Will I compair someone to my Ex?
Are these feeling normal, or do I need a shrink, lol.?
No, really.
A lot of it gets sorted out on it's own over time. I'm glad you aren't thinking of going out and dating right now.
That anger, as long as it doesn't drive you to do stupid things, it there to protect you, and can be a very good driving force, use it to keep you moving.
You probably will, at some point, and on some level, compare your dates to you Ex.... and IMNSHO, that is normal. If you didn't, it means you didn't learn from past mistakes!
I wish you the best of luck.
Do you have a friend or sibling to help you pack and move? You really should call someone and have them be with you right now. This is some hard stuff on your plate today.
No, I don't plan to date any time too soon. Maybe a one night stand....JUST KIDDING!
No one to help here, she left me totally isolated. however, I have this site and a few out of state friends and an aunt. I talk to them every day, which all helps.
I have some experience in the whole new relationship thing. First, don't push yourself to find another partner. When you feel like it, it WILL happen. You will feel like dating again. Also, I did not think about my ex when I started seeing someone new. Of course this may not apply for eeryone, but that was my experience.
Glad your feeling alright.
good luck with the move.