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...can I say hell here? If I've offended anyone, I apologize!
St. Patricks Day from HELL!!!
Saturday we went to the House of Blues in Anaheim to see the Fenians... my all time favorite Irish band. My stbx sister-in law had invited me about a week ago and I figured my stbx would be going anyway so we discussed going together.
I had some birthday money saved up and told him that we could use that and not have to dip into the bank account at all. He agreed to it and even left his bank card home. Okay, cool! We're on the same page.
We all planned for taxis for everyone so that was good and they told me that I was going to drink this time (I quit drinking so long ago because stbx does enough for everyone! I'm ALWAYS the designated driver). I didn't have to worry about driving home or worry about anyone else but myself. Okay, cool about that too, but deep inside I KNEW it wasn't going to be cool by the end of the night.
Everything was going well until about 3/4 of the way through. Of course the stbx is drinking like the normal fish that he is and I'm trying to maintain and have a good time. Not a big deal until one of the last few drinks he asked if I wanted anything. So, I gave him some money to get me and him something. He disappeared for awhile until I saw him again behind me with a drink. I go, what happened to mine? He turned around with that look on his face so I followed him thinking I was just going to get my own. He got pissy with me (of course because now I can see where Angry Drunk Guy is reappearing. He gets pissy saying that he gave the money to our friend and he was getting it and gave me some bullshit story that the friend got him his drink, blah, blah, blah and walked off.
Well, the night basically went downhill from there. He kept getting drinks, but didn't have any money and when I asked him he said that his brother gave him $20. After everyone had left and it was the stbx, me, and another couple in a restaurant. Again he was able to get himself a drink. I asked him how he keeps being able to get drinks with no money and he told me that his brother gave him $60!!!! So it went from $20 to $60!! I said that it defeated the purpose of him getting money from his brother that WE have to now pay back from our joint account!!! I don't want to have to pay anyone back for his drinking!!! We have to remain joint until we sell our home. We've both agreed on this and are supposedly remaining amicable about it... Until Angry Drunk Guy decides to show up.
So, I proceeded to get up after he got totally ugly with me and after my friend yelled at him for it. I said I'm done and I'm taking a taxi home. I wish I could go into more detail, but there's so much crap into it.
Basically, her husband and the stbx came out of the restaurant for us to all leave and ADG made some drunk ADG comments about me getting up and moving on... I'm trying to do that, you assdumb!! So he's making comments to both my friend and her husband (that he's know since he was a kid) and then shoots me the Angry Drunk Guy FAMOUS look of "you better just shut the F up" and mouthed F You to me. Now, mind you, I've clammed already clammed up at this point because I know talking gets me nowhere but yelled at, name called, and flipped off.
That pissed my friend off and ADG called her an Fing whore! My God, are we not adults here???? I have vowed to NEVER let myself or anyone around me get in that situation again. I don't care how much he thinks he can intimidate me or anyone else around him, the next time this happens the gloves are coming off. I can't take that anymore. At least this time it happened around someone else and so now there are actual witnesses. He can't just do that to me anymore.
He's going down a really negative path and is going to find himself so horribly alone.
I hope this ends soon before it ends me!!!
St. Patricks Day from HELL!!!
Saturday we went to the House of Blues in Anaheim to see the Fenians... my all time favorite Irish band. My stbx sister-in law had invited me about a week ago and I figured my stbx would be going anyway so we discussed going together.
I had some birthday money saved up and told him that we could use that and not have to dip into the bank account at all. He agreed to it and even left his bank card home. Okay, cool! We're on the same page.
We all planned for taxis for everyone so that was good and they told me that I was going to drink this time (I quit drinking so long ago because stbx does enough for everyone! I'm ALWAYS the designated driver). I didn't have to worry about driving home or worry about anyone else but myself. Okay, cool about that too, but deep inside I KNEW it wasn't going to be cool by the end of the night.
Everything was going well until about 3/4 of the way through. Of course the stbx is drinking like the normal fish that he is and I'm trying to maintain and have a good time. Not a big deal until one of the last few drinks he asked if I wanted anything. So, I gave him some money to get me and him something. He disappeared for awhile until I saw him again behind me with a drink. I go, what happened to mine? He turned around with that look on his face so I followed him thinking I was just going to get my own. He got pissy with me (of course because now I can see where Angry Drunk Guy is reappearing. He gets pissy saying that he gave the money to our friend and he was getting it and gave me some bullshit story that the friend got him his drink, blah, blah, blah and walked off.
Well, the night basically went downhill from there. He kept getting drinks, but didn't have any money and when I asked him he said that his brother gave him $20. After everyone had left and it was the stbx, me, and another couple in a restaurant. Again he was able to get himself a drink. I asked him how he keeps being able to get drinks with no money and he told me that his brother gave him $60!!!! So it went from $20 to $60!! I said that it defeated the purpose of him getting money from his brother that WE have to now pay back from our joint account!!! I don't want to have to pay anyone back for his drinking!!! We have to remain joint until we sell our home. We've both agreed on this and are supposedly remaining amicable about it... Until Angry Drunk Guy decides to show up.
So, I proceeded to get up after he got totally ugly with me and after my friend yelled at him for it. I said I'm done and I'm taking a taxi home. I wish I could go into more detail, but there's so much crap into it.
Basically, her husband and the stbx came out of the restaurant for us to all leave and ADG made some drunk ADG comments about me getting up and moving on... I'm trying to do that, you assdumb!! So he's making comments to both my friend and her husband (that he's know since he was a kid) and then shoots me the Angry Drunk Guy FAMOUS look of "you better just shut the F up" and mouthed F You to me. Now, mind you, I've clammed already clammed up at this point because I know talking gets me nowhere but yelled at, name called, and flipped off.
That pissed my friend off and ADG called her an Fing whore! My God, are we not adults here???? I have vowed to NEVER let myself or anyone around me get in that situation again. I don't care how much he thinks he can intimidate me or anyone else around him, the next time this happens the gloves are coming off. I can't take that anymore. At least this time it happened around someone else and so now there are actual witnesses. He can't just do that to me anymore.
He's going down a really negative path and is going to find himself so horribly alone.
I hope this ends soon before it ends me!!!
WHY??? What is wrong with me?
It's just tough since we have common friends/family. I guess I thought I could do it since we have a daughter together and we get along fine when he's sober. Yeah, story of my life.
It won't be happening again, that's for sure!