Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
How many of you left your spouse, and now ask to try again, months later? I have done this so many times, but he says NO WAY! I wonder why we do this. Do we not remember the real reasons we left? Is it the rejection we cant handle, because I dont really want to go back to the way things were. I keep telling him we would have to do a million degree turnaround to make things work. I thought the family and the marriage would be worth trying again, but obviously he doesnt. Does this make sense to anybody?
I am on my way to work, but will check in as soon as I get home this afternoon.
Looking forward to seeing what some of you have to say.
I am on my way to work, but will check in as soon as I get home this afternoon.
Looking forward to seeing what some of you have to say.
Either way, may I give you a dumpee's perspective?
My stbx and I live in separate homes and we have joint custody of our 7 year old boy.
Background: After 15 years of marriage (she will be 47 next month), she told me that she no longer loved me and, despite the vows (see previous topic on THAT subject) she wanted a divorce. But she wants us to be 'friends'.
Here's my perspective. I can no longer touch the woman whom I dearly loved. I cannot hold her, hug her, even reach out and hold her hand. Being in her presence still hurts because that which was no longer is, and never will be. So, I don't want to see her physically because every time I do I reminded of what has been lost. It is possible that your X feels the same. Still loves you, can't bear to not express that love, prefers not to be reminded. Ask him his reasons for his response, ask yourself your reasons for considering reconciliation. Compare your two reasons.
If I am way off base about your personal situation and your reasons for leaving then I apologize.
I agree with all friends here mostly the part about history. sometimes its hard to believe something so beautiful has turned into nothing. i have reached the place where i am ready for the future whatever it will be. it looks much more pleasing than life with the stbx