((((((wes))))))))) sorry for your pain tonight...... tomorrow is a new day....

I know EXACTLY what you mean.....sigh....

scoot over bro, pass me the chips and the remote

I feel that way alot too

yep, there is a big void... you described those 'little daily things' well.

may we all fill it with someone bigger than the hole that was left behind. someday..

First congrats on being sober. It's a good thing, really. Second, yep, I remember. But I think it's my turn to hold the remote.

*clinks glasses*

Cheers Hikerchic.

May we all do that.

{{{{Wes}}}}} here's to the good days and friends to help us get through the bad ones.

Same thing here, Sometimes I just want to lay on the bed in someone arms.

I miss having someone to eat supper with.

I know exactly what you feel like....I miss him making me laugh at stuipd little things...I miss him telling me I am beautiful even when I know I look like shit....I miss him just coming up behind me and hugging me.....I miss so many little things but most of all I just miss him and the life we had w/ our kids

I am sorry that you are hurting! I am glad that you spent the day sober. That is just a crutch to your recovery. Let us be your mug of beer! Hang in there!

I'm so sorry for your pain, we all know what it is like. But you did make it through one more day, which is one more you can put behind you. Know you are not alone and keep coming back here!!

I know how you feel, I miss my girl so much and wish she was with me all the time. Actually I started out this whole mess sober since I'm not much of a drinker...so after 4 weeks I decided to drink every now and then. Helps a little but not much. Drinking is probably not the best answer to heal but it does alleviate some of the pain temporarily.

The hardest thing for me was having to deal with being alone. I worked only part time for a few weeks and all that alone time..
I had to deal with myself.
It was very hard, I used to be a work-aholic. I'd hide from my life in my job..
didn't work really.
I am grateful for having had that time to figure out who I am, and who I want to be.
Hang in there. These are the dark days and they do get better.

I am so sorry for your pain. It is so very hard to face and when all your friends have gone home you can at times really feel alone.
I used to be in the place that you are and I can tell you that it will get better in time if you focus on yourself and not let yourself look back too often or for too long.
I am busy and have a very full life and actually enjoy my time alone at the end of the day now. It took a very long time to get here though and there were many a night feeling lonely and crying myself to sleep. I found that this had very little to do with me personally though. For me, it was the confusion over how the wonderful man I knew and was committed to could flip to such an evil angry person in the course of 1 year after we had been together for 13. I was mourning the death of that man and the greiving process was completely normal although very difficult to get through.
You will feel better. Just focus on you. Fake it until you make it is an expression quite a few on DS use and it is very true. Make sure you eat right, exercise if only going for walks each day and dust off some old dreams and hobbies and get active in them again. Volunteer with a worthwhile organization. Do things for YOU and that are healthy for YOU. You will get there. In my opinion, time is not the healer but the action and focus on yourself definately is.
Journal here, vent here and do what you need to do here to let out the painful emotions. We get it and we will be here to get you through.