I feel the exact same way.. It's only been 3 days for me and the hurt hasn't eased up at all.
Message me if you need someone to talk to.

I did it one day to a time and going to my therapist
And support groups. They really helped me and
kept Me sane and grounded.

A new breakup and grieving Can be overwhelming.

It takes self compassion, and being Kind and gentle
With yourself as much as possible while you grieve
And heal. HUGS

You have to get a new mindset think about positive things as much as possible . Negativity is never good!

I am so tired as well. It is like being on a merry go round - everything just continuously swirls up again... I just keep coming back to WHY?!?!?

Thank you Nightingale that really helped and the article spoke to me. Very very helpful.

I know the feeling. Annoyed that you are still feeling everything and just want to shut it off just so you can have some peace for a while. I have found that even though I can't turn off how I am feeling, I have tried channeling it. I got a personal trainer and have found the days where I see her, I get a little break in thinking about my stbx and the divorce. I am exhausted when I get out, but it's for more productive reasons and something I've done for myself instead of going through all the details in my head., and I find those days I actually sleep. It's funny how you can be so tired yet can't sleep a minute. I find when I can't get out of my own head I say to myself out loud " stop thinking these thoughts. It will not change anything and you are only making yourself upset." Sometimes it works, other times not but it makes me feel like I have a say in it. If you have a therapist, you can ask that person to allow you to speak about what's going on there, and that can be your outlet. I have put boundaries with the details of my ex with all my friends. I have asked them to remind me to not let him speak about him, and if I do to only give me 5 minutes and then tell me enough. I'm not sure where you are in the process, but sometimes it helps to talk about things, and then other times it's easy to start obsessing about everything that has happened and you drive yourself crazy. I found that was what I was doing, ruining time with people that wanted to spend time with me because if work myself up over a person who doesn't think or want to spend time with me. Try and trick your mind to think of anything else and in time it might just work. Focus on the small things. Tell yourself you will not think about your situation for just 5 minutes and everyday add a minute until one day you realize it was a whole hour, day, week that you found some peace. I truly hope you find some rest and relief soon.

I'm new to this, I saw the post though and it spoke to me, I'm tired of the lies from the one i love, I'm tired of the pain, all I want is peace, if anyone wants to talk I'm open to conversation.

@Jesse22, Start a new thread, hugs

Peace is all I want at this point and that starts with me. Thank you everyone. It's an amazing feeling to know you aren't alone bc most days I feel very alone...even in a room full of people. This support group has been great.

It does get better as you begin to heal. It still takes
Time though. The first year after the divorce I was
still pretty raw and emotional.

I am much better now and more grounded especially
after finally Detaching from him and going no contact
since i moved out of town.

This May will be two years for me divorced and i had
Been married for 30 Years and it was bad for 12 of them.

The bad is what haunted me the most and made me
question what i thought were fairly good years. HUGS

Hi its been 6 weeks for me since my wife wrote a letter to me telling me she did not want to be married. I spent 4 weeks of sleepless nights and zombie days trying to find out what I had done to have her write me a letter instead of a face to face? We are still leaving under the same roof, because she lost her job, and I can't move out unless I know she is going to be ok, after 36 years of marriage that is how I feel, the 6th week was a sledge hammer to the head when I finally told her to just tell me the truth so that I can get pass this hurt, she told me she was having an affair with another woman, how do you compete with that? still in limbo don't know what to do constantly thinking of it trying to just move on with my life feels like my soul is asking my heart to mend it but my heart tells my soul, it's trying to find the pieces still.

Oh Ben that's terrible. Cheating is cheating...it doesn't matter if it's a man or woman. You don't need to compete with anyone. Be good to yourself and look after your best interest too.

I thought it would be easier, but I feel I need to get out of the house before I can truly start healing, you all know the hurt we are going through so deep so painful.

Feels like you are having a heart attack and you are paralysed. I so get it. If you can get away from the situation it will help...trust me.

Wow this post and the replies are really making an impact on me. After 17 years of marriage,, I found my husband texting inappropriate selfies to another woman. It was devastating since I didn't see it coming. I was so sad. Then I got busy and into the gym for the first time in 15 years. And instead of thinking about him all the time, I started to think about how much better I was feeling. I am focusing on me first now. I have no idea if my marriage will survive, but I do know that I will survive. Hugs to each of you. I pray you each will be able to see how deserving you are, and that you each should be cherished. I know that one day I will feel cherished again (not sure from who yet) but in the meantime, I will focus on the positive. Love to you all.