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So tired ...

J2789
J2789

I'm so tired of everything. I'm tired of feeling tired (health-wise), im tired of the financial struggle even though I'm working, I'm tired of having to tell my boyfriend the same things over and over and hearing him say "Princess Im trying" I'm tired of feeling like I'm not being touched enough, loved enough or wanted enough by him, I'm so sick of working with people in the office that are clearly bitches, fake, back stabbers and extreme gossipers and having to pretend like I get along with them for the sake of keeping my job, I'm just so tired of the struggle...I know walking away from it all is not going to solve anything but it doesn't change that I still strongly feel like walking away. Please some one give me some kind of good advise!! And I don't want to read ...it's called being an adult move on with it ...I'm 28 years old ...is it really that much of a struggle ??? Could part of my pessimistix view have to do with my hormonal imbalance and the other part that I don't feel fully suported by my guy and lack close relationships at work ...not to mention I hardly see my family anymore aince it's too long of a drive ...

Alone
Alone
I can relate to a lot of your feelings of being tired. And I'm not going to tell you to suck it up! Sometimes life is hard and can feel overwhelming. And while we can't always just run away, I can do things for myself and I do try. Alanon, church, nails, therapy, and occasional massage. If $ is an issue, take a hot bath instead!

Try to keep yourself cleaned and groomed, even if you don't feel like it. It does help. Mix up your clothes. Get a few new pieces - shop resell shops if you don't have extra money.

If you are tired, sleep. On your next day off, sleep all day. Nap and watch TV. Pull the covers over your head literally. Just get up the next day and move on.

My alcoholic husband isn't available to me and may never be - I've got to take care of me. Thanks for your post - reminds me to keep trying!
J2789
J2789
Wow, thank YOU for the advice! Much needed and helpful. Interestingly, my guy has a problem with alcohol too. Makes me wonder
JBroken
JBroken
Yes... my husband runs to alcohol when he can't handle his emotions. He also tends to pick and choose when to meet my needs but expects me to meet his all the time. Or somehow think that when he decides to pay me attention I should be appreciative. I feel just like you. Thank you for sharing I thought I was alone I started to feel like I'm just soo pessimistic that maybe I'm the problem. Today I called out of work to kind of "wallow" so that tomorrow I can try to pull it together and take next steps
J2789
J2789
I'm so sorry JBroken you're having to go through this. It's interesting that I thought I was alone too until I read your post and some one else's on her who so kindly shared her experience as well AND what helps her manage.
No one is perfect but it sounds like our men have serious issues. Serious enough, at least emotionally, for me to actually be considering a clean escape route before our relationship advances to marriage someday. Everything I read in books, articles, online literature and so on advises people to not be with an alcoholic, or some one who copes with difficult emotions with substances because of how many problems in can create. Do you plan to stay married to your husband?
I'm curious because, although I'm not married, I value and perceive marriage as a one-time forever deal for my-self unless the person cheats or dies. Much like yourself, I think I'd pretty pessimistic if I was married to my guy and he didn't actually get better from the above mentioned issues.....:(
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