The feeling is going to take quite awhile to go away.....just being honest with you. I can understand your feelings as I and so many others on here have experienced the same thing.

I don't want the divorce but I am having to accept my new reality for what it is. Do you have something activities that can occupy your mind? Seek out a support network and talk with people as much as you can.

Every situation is different yet the same. Process your feelings and let the emotions flow. It's still very hard for me and I am into month 4 in my separation / divorce. Prayers be with you.

I know exactly how you feel. I had texted my ex many times and regretted it a 1/2 a second after I'd sent it, but by then it was too late. :/ It's been over two weeks since I texted, emailed, or communicated in any way with my ex! It has gotten easier, but I still sometimes get the urge. Now, I just have to stop myself from checking up on him on facebook, twitter, etc.... I know it will get easier the longer we're apart, but I still miss him everyday and I still hope that one day he will remember what we had and come back to me. For now, though, I have to move on to protect myself and heal my broken heart/soul. There are better things to come...

It will take a long time to go away , i think. No matter what they have done its hard to turn your feelings off, just like that

So you messed up, no biggie. Tommorow a a new day and you can start fresh. :) don't beat yourself up.

I was ready to die when mine left... it does go away though in time. Part of what makes it go away faster is letting go. Time really does heal though

I did not marry my ex and did not lived together. I don't know if that made it any it easier. It's been 2 months since we've separated though (no good-byes or anything) and 21 days since we last talked. The sting of the nostalgias and "what might have been" is a lot less. Maybe 10% if that. I still think of him, but maybe 2-3 times a day (if that).

The first 2 weeks is very hard though. Don't be ashamed to cry if you feel like it, scream, wail, whatever to build that pent-up emotions. I did all, plus massage once a week to ease the anxiety. Went out with GFs which helped a lot, worked full time even though I could have taken time off. If you are working, taking time off is a big mistake because you'd be home moping, thinking, wishing, doing post-mortem as to where the relationship went wrong, staring at that phone or email (I almost got cross-eyed dong the latter! -LOL!).

I think the quickest way to healing is "no contact" total black-out. Even if it is tempting, try and not break that because you will only hurt more. This site has been really helpful for me. Thanks to everyone who sent hugs and kind words. :)

ooppps! Typo! Meant to say " whatever to release that pent-up emotions". - not to build up that pent-up emotions :)

Don't feel bad. Trust me I know how it feels. I message mine quite often. I've tried the no contact rule many times and have failed everytime. I normally can go for two days with no contact and end up breaking it :(

It is so hard to break something you did every day especially when you weren't the cause of the breakup. What Im going to try and do is set (another) goal. That may help for you. For instance, my ex went away yesterday for a month. Im using this time of no contact. Its already killing me but Im going to stick to it. Let's just hope I can keep strong after Monday. Set a goal of two days, then when that comes go another two then another. Hang in there, we'll get there one day.

It is a process. Unfortunately, no one can tell u how long it will take but we are here to support you. The NC is very hard. I know . I refuse to contact my ex but every time he sends me a text I respond and it's been four months.

With time it will get easier.

Dear Lonely,
So: the worst thing that can happen to you - and at latest this is when you will stop - is that he will reply saying something nasty! Mine did. Since then almost no contact. Almost, because we have kids he comes and visits. I am doing the girl who he left me for a HUGE favor by not bothering him. I don't see him ever either. Just no contact. It feels awful! You feel you want to see him and hug him whatever here and now. It WILL get better. Don't give up. We are here to help. You are already doing a great job!

I haven't contacted my guy in a month yet the feeling is still as strong as ever, sometimes its not even about whether you talk to them, just having the memories and the feelings can still hurt but you just need to find a way to move on and rid your heart of the feelings.

Been there done that, I know it is hard I promised myself I wont text or email or even call him but I did, hoping he will say come home I want you bak but unfortunately that didn't happen its been 3 weeks now I was good for 2 weeks no contact but it's recent I did all of those in two days called, text, and email, just pray and try to be strong your not the only one who makes mistakes to contact the person you miss and love.

I'm with everyone here. It is very hard not to contact. It's been 13 days since I heard from him. I ended up emailing him yesterday. But to date, no reply. My holidays in February was approved. Now I am in a dilemma of whether to go or not, not knowing if I will see him or not. It will just hurt me knowing I'm in the same city as he is and he won't see me. It's an awful feeling to be in this state. I wished I could just walk away. But I created this mess by linking him up with my brother. Now they're best buddies.