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So sick of love songs

richyramirez
richyramirez
I do want to be happy and stay optimistic, but for some reason I find myself listening to sad songs. It's like in a way I want to feel lonely and depressed for some reason. There are certain songs that take me back to different scenarios of my life that I wish I could relive and stay at that moment forever. My daughter is with me tonight, but how I wish I didn't miss her mom the way I do right now. I know its over and there is no looking back. Its the night time that gets to my heart. The holidays are coming,new years,etc......its too much too take all at once. We used to tell each other when we get old and if one of us leaves this earth first, we would play " goodbye my lover" by James Blunt at the funeral. Now I break down with no sense of pride when I listen to that song......its too hard to cope with all at once. It's all overwhelming
deleted_user
deleted_user
listen to those songs, richy, and cry your eyes out. it is good for you. eventually, all of the tears will be shed and you will start to feel yourself again.
JennyMe
JennyMe
faithful is right on. allow yourself to grieve. it is important part of process. hang in there. brighter days ahead.
richyramirez
richyramirez
@faithful Thanks again faithful. It just feels bad knowing that its about 6 months after the seperation and at times it feels like I haven't progressed. I knkwbj gotta get out if this negative box I'm in today. Tomorrow is a new day and I hope I'm more positive. Thanks! @Jenny Thanks jenny. It's just one of those nights
JennyMe
JennyMe
we all have them love... don't be too hard on yourself. you are only human.

hugs
deleted_user
deleted_user
One of my favorite songs of all time is "Liar" by Three Dog Night. That's the type of song you should be lilstening to, not the sad,, sappy love songs.
deleted_user
deleted_user
we have to approach it from two angles, richy: one the one side, we have to allocate private time to cry out our tears for a couple of hours every day. on the other side, we have to face the fact that we are now alone and do those things that people alone do to build solid good lives of work and play.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah. When I am depressed, I go on musical hiatus. There's only one song I flip the switch on when I hear it. Has to do with my kid, not any of my ex's though.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was in that spot before, WANTING to listen to those songs and not let to of the pain. I think it's healthy for you to go through, just like everyone has said. Don't beat yourself up for it. Turn the volume up and sing at the top if your lungs! You will let go of this part when you're ready.
richyramirez
richyramirez
Thanks to everybody!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Grieving is a process and time can help lessen the intensity of the pain. However, certain things can exlpoit our grief. THOUGH not a medical manual, the Bible does comment on the effect that emotionspositive or negativecan have on a persons mental and physical health. Have you shown yourself discouraged in the day of distress? Your power will be scanty. (Proverbs 17:22; 24:10) Feelings of discouragement can sap our energy, making us feel weak and vulnerable with no desire to change or to seek help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Grieving is a process. It takes time and it does not happen as fast as we wish it did sometimes. It is ok to indulge in those sad songs but prob not super healthy to stay fixed on them. Allow yourself some time to grieve and then turn the music off.
I went through a time when I swear there was nothing but lovesongs on the radio. I hated it and I hated them. I am much better now though. I can listen to love songs and want to feel that way again. I wish you all the best and I hope that you allow yourself to have down moments. It is a roller coaster my friend.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Mary J No More Pain Helps me ... Try Kelise I hate you so Much Right now xxxx