Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
On Tuesday after having a long and serious talk with my wife of 7+ years, she tells me that we should never have gotten married and she wants a divorce. This was two days after I found out my Dad is dying of Lung Cancer and two months after I lost my job. She works as LMT and makes about 2000 a month.
I have anger and resentment because I have supported every wrong turn and decision over the past 7 years without a waiver of my love and devotion to her. Three quit jobs, undisipline spending (when we have no money) and all she could say was dude....I am sorry. I never waivered in my committement to her. I admit that I made mistakes, but never was abusive or mean in anyway. Never cheated on her, or every thought of it.
Once she got her business up and running in May, she found some independence and began to drift away. She started singing (which I supported) and joined a band. She tells me that she tried to be an Iowan and be plain and because of this. She lost herself and was doing things for me and not for her. I was keeping her in the house so she could not be herself. SHE choose to quit work and stay at home. I picked up the slack everytime she made quit a job because I love her......always.
I feel like my purpose was to provide her with two beautiful children and the means to grow up and now with her last year in her 30's, she is ready to be on her own. The only problem is she has my heart. I can not love another every. She is cold and every attempt to talk to her ends with I love you but we can not be together and she is taking the kids because a women should take the kids. I am torn between becoming a complete asshole and fighting for sole custody and being a supportive entity for the sake of my two beautify children.
Just very angry, and it grows by the day.
I have anger and resentment because I have supported every wrong turn and decision over the past 7 years without a waiver of my love and devotion to her. Three quit jobs, undisipline spending (when we have no money) and all she could say was dude....I am sorry. I never waivered in my committement to her. I admit that I made mistakes, but never was abusive or mean in anyway. Never cheated on her, or every thought of it.
Once she got her business up and running in May, she found some independence and began to drift away. She started singing (which I supported) and joined a band. She tells me that she tried to be an Iowan and be plain and because of this. She lost herself and was doing things for me and not for her. I was keeping her in the house so she could not be herself. SHE choose to quit work and stay at home. I picked up the slack everytime she made quit a job because I love her......always.
I feel like my purpose was to provide her with two beautiful children and the means to grow up and now with her last year in her 30's, she is ready to be on her own. The only problem is she has my heart. I can not love another every. She is cold and every attempt to talk to her ends with I love you but we can not be together and she is taking the kids because a women should take the kids. I am torn between becoming a complete asshole and fighting for sole custody and being a supportive entity for the sake of my two beautify children.
Just very angry, and it grows by the day.
I know you are angry, but don't do anything when emotions are high. Take a step back when you feel angry and give yourself some space.
Welcome to the group
So, the feeling of resentment I remember being very, very palpable.
But....it ebbs aways with time...it surely does. Inside this "mess" you feel, there are an abundance of learning lessions...and, thoughi t seems unfortunate right now, this will be an experience you can take a lot of positive from.