Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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So many emotions

andthentherewas3
andthentherewas3

Tired, devastated, confused, and denial are the biggest emotions I have.  I don't know how to move on and let him go.  I want to reconcile so bad but am making every mistake that I possibly can.  I have no friends, am not really that close to anyone in my family, so my support system is basically non exsistant.  I need to have someone to talk to besides him.  I have anxiety and panic attacks that have intensified immensely since this all started a little over a month ago.  He's been my constant for 17 years, he's who I run to when things are bad, when my anxiety is out of control he's my rock.  Who do I turn to now when the one person I always turned to no longer wants to be here???? 

sadman
sadman
Hi- I kind of know pretty much how you are feeling and wish I could give you an answer to make the whole thing go away quickly. I'm not sure why people must go throught this type of pain in our lifetime. I am still in the middle of my situation and keep trying different things. I am hoping that one or a combination of them will ease my suffering. I'll list what I am trying and maybe they will stir something in your mind that will work for you. Prayer, meditation, counseling, Meetup.com groups (to make friends), dating sites, reading self help books, sleeping aid, antidepressant (didn't work for me so I stopped taking them), adopted a (rescue) dog.
People say time helps but i am impatient so I'm trying all those other thing to help speed up the recovery.
Breakups suck to put it mildly. I am not going to offer you any cliches because they only piss me off. When someone is the thick of those emotional feelings the BS sayings that some offer are counter productive.
If I come across anything else I will pass it along to you if you want me to. In the meantime try your best to keep it together, try to eat and sleep well. Keep groomed:). God bless you!
andthentherewas3
andthentherewas3
Thank you for the suggestions I am in therapy right now, just reluctantly agreed to start taking anti depressants because of the anxiety, I'm giving them 6 weeks if I don't like the way I feel or feel that they are not working, I will stop taking them. I have a dog already, I try to bury myself in my work when I'm at work by then I have to come home and it all comes crashing down on me. I am so tired of being inside my own head I can't stand myself anymore. I pray to god all the time to please make this easier and to make it go away.
mirandac
mirandac
Divorce care helps a lot with the grieving process
And being with others. I started DC after separation
plus i had been in therapy and alanon for a little while.
I take no meds myself just trying to work thru it.

Grief and feeling your uncomfortable feelings and
Emotions can be an intense time and it creates stress
then Anxiety. If you are having attacks meds should
help.

Also you will be trying to detach from him, no contact
Or limited contact will help with the healing too, Hugs