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Mommieof3 01/02/2018

A few days before New Years my husband hit me with he don’t want to be with me anymore and he don’t love me it broke my heart about a month ago he moved to a different state for work me and the kids were supposed to join him in a few months I thought things were going great we would video chat every day and he would come home on the weekends I even went to check out the new place we would text all day and he would tell me how much he missed me and loved me we have been together going on 4 years we have had our ups and downs we have both done our wrongs in the beginning my husband would emotionally cheat all the time he promised he never sexually cheated but he would talk to different women he even kissed one at one point I did my wrongs too I cheated about a year and a half ago it was wrong and I hate my self every day for it but even in the mist of it all we wanted to conntinue our marriage and work Thur it all we had been going to church talking more about our problems and trying to understand each other’s needs more I felt things were going great I felt loved and wanted and when he hit me with he’s done literally over night it broke my heart and I don’t understand he blames me for cheating as I said he was a year and a half ago so I can’t seem to believe it’s thats he’s been so hateful ignoring me not talking to me telling me he don’t love me I asked if he had someone over where he’s living or met someone and he says no he’s just tired of me and isn’t happy I can’t seem to wrap my head around all this I’m pregnant and it makes things worse he’s saying the baby isn’t his and he wants nothing to do with it or me I’m so heart broken because I truly do love him and iv tried to talk and make him see that be he shuts me out I have no where to turn and feel so alone it’s got to the point where I’m not sleeping well or eating well I try to stay positive for the kids but it’s hard I feel someone ripped my heart out giving him his space seems wrong I can’t understand it and I can’t get my self to leave him alone what should I do

gettingitstraight 01/02/2018

every situation is different and even though you both admitted your wrongs as a guy whose wife cheated on me with my best friend sadly even if you verbally agree that your going to work through it the fact that cheating occurred always lingers as I am sure what your husband did to you lingers in the back of your mind too all you can do is put on your happy face around your kids and talk to people when you can about how you feel. has he talked to your kids I don't know how old they are?

gettingitstraight 01/02/2018

ohh and one more thing I didn't read the end before I sent it, one thing I learned after the anger went away is you have to leave him alone unless its something with your kids that is a mutual discussion, heres what I did think back before you were married. Whats one thing that you enjoyed doing that you haven't really done since you got married, start slowly and do that, for me I used to love to watch baseball but I hadn't really watched baseball in a long time, the summer after she did what she did I watched baseball a lot of it and I just was content in doing something I enjoyed, now its been several years and to be honest I haven't watched much baseball since then but it helped me get my mind off of dwelling on the past and trying to slowly move forward

Mommieof3 01/02/2018

I just don’t see why he let a whole year and half go by before he said he wanted out I understand I hurt him I get we have hurt each other I just feel there is something more then what he’s saying I found out he has a social account and he has tons on woman on there I just can’t believe he’s not doing it for another woman but if he he’s being so hateful and mean I don’t know why he wouldn’t just say :( my kids are all under 6 and they don’t understand why dads not home he’s about 5 hours away and he calls them at night but it’s always late at time they are even in bed by the time he calls and my son sits there asking why hasn’t he called I’m trying so hard to tell him there’s still hope but he shuts me down and as I mentioned it hurts because he literally did this over night it’d be different if I saw signs or we were slowly fading from each other it helps to see a mans ponit so thank you

Mommieof3 01/02/2018

And to be honest it’s hard for me to find what I used to love i used to love working and now i stay at home all day with the kids I literally feel alone with no adult to talk to my family is busy with their own life problems I hate to being up mine and also because I know if I do they won’t like him and I don’t want to do that to him even tho he’s being so mean and disrespectful I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to say ok I don’t deserve this instead I sit and think how I can’t save us

NOTwhatIthought 01/02/2018

After reading and re=rereading your post, I've concluded that the best thing for you to do is take the kids and leave this guy far behind, especially if he's physically abusive. Your "fault" in this doesn't matter. Hit the road and file for divorce to protect yourself.

JAAKK 01/03/2018

Mommieof3,
I have experienced many humbling situations too. This sounds like you need not to worry about your husband right now, but taking your children and yourself and get somewhere safe and start working on changing your own life. Your husband is an adult and you are not responsible for changing him or your marriage. Right now you need to focus on you! You said you and your husband had started attending church, why not just start going back to church yourself and surround yourself around people who are loving, caring and kind? People who are willing to come by your side and help you through your struggles? Church is a positive influential place to take your struggles, and problems to God and talk to Him, are you angry and want to scream, do it, God will listen. Are you tried and hurting, cry out to Him! God will listen. Are you happy about something, tell Him and thank Him.
Find support in Family and friends who you trust and know that they are accountable.
Keep open communication to one and all. When you are starting see progress in how you are feeling, people will start to notice and your husband will start to notice and you will start to notice change in him as well.
I will pray for you and your husband.

heartache5 01/03/2018

Sounds like ur husband has been cheating on you. I have developed a radar on that based on what you write about his behaviour. Problem is cheaters want to be the only one cheating. As soon as their partner cheats they get jealous and can't get past it. Odd how their mind works.
You don't have much choice you have to move on without him and stay strong for your kids. Get counseling if you need too just to talk and see things in perspective. Maybe list the negative points of him cause I'm sure he has many if you read them over and over it might make things easier. Good luck

Katya12 01/04/2018

I am so sorry your are going thru this. It has to be devastating! Right now, you need to take care of you and your kids....physically and mentally and emotionally. You said you were attending a church. Can you talk to the pastor? Any friends there, you can pour your heart out too? Would your hubby consider counseling? Cheating is a tuff thing to get over....to regain trust is possible but a hard road. Keep things as normal as you can for the kids. Does he have friends? work buddies that you can talk to ? When I went thru my trial time with my first hubby, I prayed a lot. It was a comfort and a strength for me. In this time right now, when the pain is still so blinding, give it a try. My heart goes out to you my friend.

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