Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I had loaned my stbx $50 last week because he is on disability and doesn't get paid until next week, well his rent deposit check came in the mail today and he wanted to pay me back. Funny thing was I was going to tell him next week to keep it and not worry about it (I was being nice for about 2 seconds there).
Anyway I stopped by his mom's where he is living and he paid me back the money. I went into his bedroom to see our cat and he followed me in there and we talked about the divorce. I sat on the edge of the bed and looked over and there sat a half gallon of whiskey with maybe an inch left in the bottom of the bottle, (glad I didn't let him keep the 50 now). I turned and looked at him and said I will pay for the divorce if you will hire a lawyer and file.
I don't want to be married to him anymore but I also don't have the time to find a lawyer meet with a lawyer and do all that BS. I want him to file. I don't care to pay for it. We had originally agreed to split the bill 50/50 but I will be 80 before he comes up with the money.
So of course he calls me tonight (drunk) as I am sure he bought more liquor because "seeing you stressed me out" and wants to make sure I am okay with the divorce and how he was sorry...blah blah fucking blah. And how he thought he knew me so well but turns out he really didn't know me (which actually I kinda wanted to know what he meant by that but wasn't going to ask).
The sight of him truly repulses me to the point I can't stand to be near him. Of course I went over there with my hair perfect and the most flattering outfit I could find and my make-up perfect. I wanted him to see that I am better off with out him...that probably makes me a bitch but oh well....
Anyway I stopped by his mom's where he is living and he paid me back the money. I went into his bedroom to see our cat and he followed me in there and we talked about the divorce. I sat on the edge of the bed and looked over and there sat a half gallon of whiskey with maybe an inch left in the bottom of the bottle, (glad I didn't let him keep the 50 now). I turned and looked at him and said I will pay for the divorce if you will hire a lawyer and file.
I don't want to be married to him anymore but I also don't have the time to find a lawyer meet with a lawyer and do all that BS. I want him to file. I don't care to pay for it. We had originally agreed to split the bill 50/50 but I will be 80 before he comes up with the money.
So of course he calls me tonight (drunk) as I am sure he bought more liquor because "seeing you stressed me out" and wants to make sure I am okay with the divorce and how he was sorry...blah blah fucking blah. And how he thought he knew me so well but turns out he really didn't know me (which actually I kinda wanted to know what he meant by that but wasn't going to ask).
The sight of him truly repulses me to the point I can't stand to be near him. Of course I went over there with my hair perfect and the most flattering outfit I could find and my make-up perfect. I wanted him to see that I am better off with out him...that probably makes me a bitch but oh well....
I am sorry things didn't work out, but I am glad for the point you are at right now.
Hang in there, be you and do what you have to for you.
but I can so relate to the drinking........I finally said that I had had enough two weeks ago and he texted me last saturday and said he was sorry for making me mad....
they just dont get it.....so suck it up and file so that you can put this in the past and continue to move forward! good luck!
And good for you for wanting to look good. That doesn't make you a bitch, it makes you human.
When my husband first told me he wanted a divorce, I told him that he was filing since he was the one that wanted it. I very quickly changed my mind - I felt the need to handle it myself. If I had left it up to him, it would never get done ( and I am a complete control freak.) I'm afraid there is little sense of urgency on his behalf & if you want it done you should just take care of it yourself.