I want that too, cancelling Christmas. On top of all of the christmas shopping, cleaning, decorating and everything, I have legal prep work to do (never ending), the emotional strain of STILL having him living here, and my disabled sister passed away Tuesday night. It's a trifecta of gloom. I didn't get the ornaments on the tree till last night, and it was like pulling teeth this year to get both sons together to do it. The cherry on the cake - stbx decided to join in for about 5 minutes. Ugh. He hasn't decorated a tree since....I don't remember. Wish he just stayed on the couch. In another house. Not really looking forward to tomorrow morning. At this point in time, it's hard to remember that next Christmas will be relaxing and peaceful.

I'm with you both. Still living in the same as as her and last night she comes home and plops down a pile of legal paperwork for review. Like really? I'm not looking at that over Christmas Eve and Christmas...it's just not the same holiday this year because she's making sure of that...stay strong every body.

I hate to say it but at least they're still there. Mine is gone and it hurts. He just changed his Facebook status to divorced on Christmas Eve. So he can have all the single woman at his beckoned call.

Mine left yesterday saying he didn't want celebrate Christmas. I understand how everyone feels. I would like him to back atleast until after the holidays. I just don't want answer any questions and I definitely don't want anyone's pity. I know it will get better. Thank God for the next day and the next.

I'm in the same boat. It was all I could do to put up a Christmas tree and get a few gifts for my daughter. I made one trip out to shop and get the tree. Thank goodness for Amazon.

My teenage daughter knows about his affair --there is a history of affairs, but she only knows about the one. So she is grieving the loss of family holiday traditions as well. She wants no relationship with him at this point and s completely stressed whenever she is forced to deal with him.

It helps knowing others are dealing with similar issues.

Hugs to all of us. Each of us will be in a better place next year. It's sad to know that there will be others here to replace us next year dealing with their own trams and recently destroyed families.

We have an incredibly small family. She is an only child with no cousins, so it's just the two of us this year.

Wow, I don't know why on earth I thought I was the only one dealing with this. Still in the same house, and she thought today was a good day to discuss splitting of custody and our assets. I wanted to throw up the entire time. And she keeps asking me why I am so upset? I asked her serously? Are you stupid? Does your brain not work? Why am I upset? So ridiculous.

Koko, so sorry about your sister. My condolensces: you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Basnime- I know I say this a lot, but I'm really sorry you have to deal with this. Just a horrible situation. The good news is you will get through this, and by keeping it together you are just getting stronger. You can do this. You will do this.

Cancelling Christmas sounds great to me. Who needs it when we are all going through so much pain? Makes it impossible to enjoy. I will say this, we shoujd all come back on here in a year so we can celebrate how much better our lives are then.

Great idea MD, we can all update here on 12.24.17. Life will surely not be perfect, but I hope we all have peace in our lives!

Thanks everybody. Sitting here with family having an anxiety attack. My boys are just going through the motions. Come on and get this over with.