Breakups & Divorce Support Group

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So Alone

jessaheart
jessaheart
I feel like I'm at worse than rock bottom.

My 2 yr relationship breakup has been over with since Oct. 31. I've only been no contact for 5 days after an embarrassing few weeks of emotional outbursts in front of him. Now he's a cold, distant jerk and I'm suffering.

I've been on antidepressants for only a week so they aren't working yet. My anxiety is so bad that I can't eat. I haven't eaten real food all week. I'm probably at
jessaheart
jessaheart
Not sure if my post got cut off or if that's a glitch on my end? I'll re-post.
refurb
refurb
jessaheart, I'm sorry for your circumstance, no sleep & no eat adds to how bad you may be feeling,
please know that although people feel and describe heartbreak differently that you are normal and not alone, find someone that you can talk to and get your thoughts and feeling out
post here, you'll get much support
take care
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are not alone. A lot of us are in the same frame of mind. I was married 20 years and now am alone. Holidays don't help. Stay strong as you can but allow yourself to grieve. I find crying actually makes me feel better. Everyone tells me I will be ok one day. Since I am not yet it is hard to believe. Especially since my ex has a new girlfriend now. The pain came back two-fold. Keep on this site. It helps. Best wishes for you.
milliejay
milliejay
Sorry - breakups do suk and there's no short cut to all the grieving they generate. Counseling for a few weeks worked for me (the therapist will tell you bunch of crap you should already know but your mind is too bugled to think about them now) - but practically it's all about allowing yourself to feel the sadness, don't rush or suppress it, do your best to take breaks and try to clear your mind - go for a walk, a drive, read a book, meditate, etc. Overtime your sadness will lift.

It also helped me to stay real with myself - to remind myself that my identity, peace and joy wasn't tied to another human and that I needed to love myself more than I love anyone else - NO, that thought process didn't keep me from being sad but it got me through the situation. I think what keeps people low is the idea that this other person is like a miracle, a GOD or whatever, when in reality they aren't anything but a person meant to be around for X amount of time and often times, people that don't even truly care about us. But for some reason we don't want to let them go - like we are junkies hooked on some type of drug - anyways, hang it there - it'll get better - You'll make it.
Justme2892
Justme2892
To get over pain, you have to go through it.