Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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strumphyy 03/17/2009

Come to think about it, I kinda admire my ex. How he didn't say anything about wanting to leave me. How he kept all quiet about finding someone new. How wonderfully he managed to blatantly ignore me after leaving me on the messenger. How he ran away from me when I saw him on the streets with his new girlfriend. basically, how he threw me away like trash...
After all, what's not to admire??
I was always complaining about the relationship. That we're not spending enough time thogheter..That I am feeling lonely..that he doesn't love me..Who would want this in his life? I was annoying, lacking diplomacy and pretty mean at times..
But boy did he give the final blow! and what a hit it was! Always quiet about his intentions, he worked slowly behind my back and had a most wonderful performance in the end..

deleted_user 03/17/2009

Big hugs. Sorry for all you have gone through.

Ricky1 03/17/2009

Yours was such a poignant posting!

I feel every bit of your pain, sorrow, deep hurt and disappointment.

Why do people we love end up being such a..holes????

regards
Ricky

deleted_user 03/17/2009

I could feel every pang of your pain in this post, and can only say, that you are a wonderful, feeling, kind individual, and yes he was adept at deception , as so many of them are, but you will win in the long run, if there is such a thing. He left you with the feelings of inadequacy that many of us are left with , until we realize that what we thought we had, was an illusion based sometimes on what we thought we needed. These things happen for a reason, and oft times that reason is not apparent, in the beginning. You are young, and that is a big plus, although I know that it doesn't feel like it at the moment. It is hard to believe in ourselves in the beginning, and that is why it is important to stay here, make friends, that will help us walk our way out of the pain.
I want to say something to you. I read your journal entry, and you say that you have no place here. I want to tell you that you do. You have a unique ability to share your feelings with others, and make them see your vision. That kind of ability can change the world one person at a time.
Being able to convey thoughts, is a wonderful quality. I can feel your sorrow, your pain, your loss, but I also hear that you are stronger than you give yourself credit for. That ability to truly "see" your situation with clarity and make others see that, is worthwhile.
Do me this favor. Keep your thoughts on this break up process in a journal. Write down your feelings. Write poetry or short stories, because I can tell that a creative mind lives within. Share some of that here, but use this time to define a new you, to find a new way. One day you will look back on these days, and someone else may need someone to throw them a rope out of this, and I think that it could be you , that will do this.
I am sending you a huge healing hug, and some strength to keep walking. I think that I see some real light ahead for you. Hugs, KImmee

deleted_user 03/17/2009

I was that guy. It took the smallest thing to make me see the error of my ways. I fought long and hard to work on our marriage, alone. Eventually it paid off. Not saying that you would even want to go back to that... just saying that people, even the most evil-hearted, can change.

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