The dreams are the worst. :(

I've been lucky in that they don't happen every night. But when I do have a dream with my ex in it, it makes for a much tougher day. I wish I had suggestions. I wouldn't recommend it as a habit, but I've found that things like Tylenol PM and NyQuil get me into a deeper sleep and I dream less. Obviously that's not a nightly solution, but if there's a certain night where you know you need to get solid sleep, I'd consider it.

Sending positive thoughts your way. I hope you have more restful sleep soon.

I've had those dreams every night too until I started listening to deep sleep hypnosis on youtube. Search 8 hrs hypnosis for deep sleep. I listen to it on my phone with headphones and let it play all night. It keeps me in a deep sleep so I wake up relaxed & refreshed and don't remember my dreams.

Ahh yes, the dreams..

My roommate moved out and was sleeping in the hall for almost 2 months before moving back in because of em.

I can't help thinking of her while I'm asleep. Most of the times, its sweet memories, but sometimes I just wake up all sweaty and breathless.

I was told that I talk a lot in sleep as well.

Well, I've this under control now so I can tell what worked for me.

At first I just started a few things which worked.

Music is something that you can try. I love heavy metal and a track or 2 from disturbed just make me sleep like a baby. there must be some music for you as well.

Other than that, I started watching comedy shows before sleeping. Any lighthearted show that makes you laugh does the trick.

Then I consulted my doctor, and he told me to cut down my caffeine and alcohol intake. Also, I was instructed to remove anything from my bedroom that might remind me of her.

Well, I've totally stopped coffee, can't live without occasional alcohol though, but these few steps have helped me a lot.

Try some if they suit you. good Luck.

for a year I had to take 3 lorazepam every night to be able to sleep.
Finally take nothing most nights now

I hate the dreams. We separated but we're working on things till day after Christmas. But I have been having dreams off and on since we've apart. Now it's even worse. I just started zoloft. I needed something for now just to help. I am mentally in a fog.

I have some dreams,, but its about what her next move might be. I like to stay ahead for her bs . I don't have much time to think about the good times we had because of her constant lies, cheating, etc. For the life of me I can not understand that her Atty actually believes all the lies when Police reports, videos and audio recordings PROVE different. We get to see the judge on the 15th and she thinks the judge is on my payroll. Yes she actually believes that. She needs help and still to this day will not seek it.

We have been broken up for over a year and four months now and I have been in my own apartment for 7 months. Lately my dreams have gotten so vivid and intense. I see her looking awesome and being successful above and beyond expectations. All of which is somewhat reality based. Although she looks nothing like she actually does in my dream. Anyways, in reality I don't want to return to that type of situation or relationship. Not that that is a possibility, just know the dreams and in reality I am thinking about her so damn much.

The dreams are more frequent in the beginning, but lessen considerably as time goes on and you begin to heal. don't fear them--it is your subconscious mind working through the pain. You could try Meds but sometimes I had dreams despite the Meds. Just something you have to work through.

Hugs.

....Embrace the dreams.......it's healthy, every fibre in your body suffers from the trauma of a break up. Your dreams are a way for your sub conscience to release it's pain and cleans house.

It took me two years flush away those memories.....its all part of the process of healing.

Peace

I dont know but the last dream i had involved a decapitated head staring at me while i slept in the dream. I listened to some music on youtube that was suppose to induce lucid dreams and I guess it worked that dream.