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aggiedolphin823 01/27/2009

So I got a letter in the mail today from the county jail from my ex-boyfriend and even though I maybe should have thrown it away immediatly I opened it and read it. I don't know why I did because all it did was serve to hurt me but my question is should I write him back? I kinda want to just write to him and tell him what I think about some of the crazy stuff he said in his letter and tell him that I don't want him to contact me anymore and if he writes I will throw the letter away unopened. I can see that having no contact with him while painful will be the best thing for me in the long run but should I write to him and tell him this or just let him keep writing letters until he gets the point that I don't want him anymore?

lycesq 01/27/2009

Aggie - I'm going to really, really try to be nice. ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND! This jerk is in jail and you are thinking of writing to him. Throw his letters in the wastebasket and totally disconnect from him. You will be healthier for it. Do not engage. Do not respond.

Lynne

deleted_user 01/27/2009

Noooooo don't write! It will just show him that you do read his letters.

deleted_user 01/27/2009

NO
NO
NO
AND
NO!

deleted_user 01/27/2009

Don't respond.

deleted_user 01/27/2009

Have someone else write on the envelope of future letters "return to sender - no such person at this address".

deleted_user 01/27/2009

I agree with writing on the letters "return to sender." Just throwing them away leaves the door open for him to think you are reading them. Don't write back. Let the returned letters speak for themselves.

hurtinandhealin2560 01/27/2009

Put Return to Sender on the letters. Don't write him back. He is trying to get back into your life. Don't let him. You deserve better.

Hugs!!!

aggiedolphin823 01/27/2009

Thanks guys I like the idea of sending any future letters back return to sender. I think I am gonna take the one I just got and tear it in little pieces when I get home and try and forget that I read it.

Jenna7873 01/27/2009

don't respond... it will only hurt you.

don't keep the letter. Throw it away - burn it - whatever.

if you receive any others --- "Return to Sender" on the unopened envelope and right back to the Post Office it goes. He'll get the picture.

I'm sorry you have to endure this. *hugs* You would think that with what he's done to you and your family he would just leave you alone.

deleted_user 01/27/2009

Ditto to all of the above! Take control and take care of yourself first, you do that by letting go...it is too easy to get sucked back in...dont go there sweetheart

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