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I'm hoping to get some advice on what to do.
Here's the situation. When my ex and I separated, he agreed to keep 4-5 paintings of mine in storage as I was moving at the same time. These are my personal artwork from my teenage years. We had hoped to get back together.
To make a long story short, he later refused to give my artwork back unless I pay him $2500. stating it's for storage. I was dealing with a very difficult situation at the time, as I was sick and my mother was dying. He of course didn't care....cold hearted human being he is. During that time, I told him I wouldn't argue with him it's up to him to do the right thing and I will not pay him $2500 for keeping a small box that he agreed to keep in the beginning without a cost.
We are divorced now and I really want my art work back.
We do not communicate in person. The last email he sent me was October 2014 and his language was filthy......he basically told me to F*off and go to Hell (to be honest, he never spoke to me like this before).
Your opinions please.......
I think he's holding on to my artwork incase I become famous (he's all about money and only money......)
Here's the situation. When my ex and I separated, he agreed to keep 4-5 paintings of mine in storage as I was moving at the same time. These are my personal artwork from my teenage years. We had hoped to get back together.
To make a long story short, he later refused to give my artwork back unless I pay him $2500. stating it's for storage. I was dealing with a very difficult situation at the time, as I was sick and my mother was dying. He of course didn't care....cold hearted human being he is. During that time, I told him I wouldn't argue with him it's up to him to do the right thing and I will not pay him $2500 for keeping a small box that he agreed to keep in the beginning without a cost.
We are divorced now and I really want my art work back.
We do not communicate in person. The last email he sent me was October 2014 and his language was filthy......he basically told me to F*off and go to Hell (to be honest, he never spoke to me like this before).
Your opinions please.......
I think he's holding on to my artwork incase I become famous (he's all about money and only money......)
If it was you then you can take him back to court to get them back.
He's clearly going to make it extremely difficult for you. It will cost you either an enormous amount of emotional effort and strain, or it will cost you hiring an attorney and going back to court to sue him for the paintings. Either way it will be a huge hassle.
Of course it might be worth all of that to you if the paintings have that much sentimental value, but only you can decide if it will be worth it.
I'm sorry he's being such a jerk about it.
Also, if your property settlement says you each get to keep your own property, then it would seem they are rightfully yours legally and he cannot charge you for storage, unless he stipulated that in writing. I'm not an attorney, but it doesn't sound like he has much of a leg to stand on and the threat of criminal prosecution might just do the trick.
Best of luck to you. I hope you get them back.
I'm in Canada and we settled out of court. He kept all his belongings and I get to keep mine. Let me put it to you this way, he's vindictive to the bone and indeed this is extortion.
I told him I'm going to get the police involved because I now consider this to be theft. He hasn't responded so I will follow up once again.
It's an emotional haul. But I always say Karma is a ***** and he will certainly reap what he sows.
Again thanks for all your suggestions.