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caruTH 10/16/2007

Anyway, My ex sister in law is getting married on Nov 11th, and I got an informal invitation. She wants my son to be the ring bearer. I am not sure what to do. I don't really want to go, because the whole ex-family is going to be there, and what if my ex has a date. I don't want to see that. But I still love my sister in law so much and it is her day. But with so many people there, will she even notice my absence? I just don't know what to do. I guess there is still alot of hurt that I am trying to avoid. What do you all think I should do?

deleted_user 10/16/2007

Are you goig for her or you? If you are going for her, do the formalities, and leave. Good luck!

deleted_user 10/16/2007

let your son be the ring bearer, discuss with the SIL your fears and/or go to the wedding, then right after pictures and dinner, you split, I doubt if your ex has a date there he'd want your son hanging out anyway. being the bigger person is always the best route. Avoid alcohol at all costs at the reception and again, leave before garters getting tossed. you showed, you were powerful, you made your presence as just you, as you were invited, then if you feel like crap when you get home, you can still hang your head high that you went without the SIL being upset you didn't come. Unless when you say informal invite, what does that look like? at a wedding no less. if she invited you in passing, I would NOT go. If you get a "formal" invitation, then respond for you and your son.

CanadianRose 10/16/2007

Good advice everyone.. I agree.

Informal Invite?.. okay.. that means.. I would think.. you and your son show up for the ceremony.. the pictures of course.. and then split.. I am sure it is going to be too much activity for a child anyways.. a reception etc.

Talk to the ex Sister in law.. let her know that it would be lovely for him to be the Ring Bearer.. how much does he need to be actually there?.. just the ceremony?.. or more...

Is it possible for your Ex to be there with your son?.. do you trust that situation?...

deleted_user 10/16/2007

My ex bil is getting married this weekend. Both of my kids are in the wedding. I am helping out w/getting the kids ready b/c my ex is the best man and will be busy. Plus, I get to see them all dressed up. I was not invited and if I was, don't think I would have gone anyway. My ex mil was surprised that I was not extended an invite. I will see the kids b4 the wedding and that's enough for me.

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