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Those of you who are following my sad life know that my wife is spending the entire weekend with her boyfriend. She tells me that "We are not having sex or doing anything like that. He doesn't want to jeopradize our future together."
I may have believed her.... but not after tonight. Right before she left she handed me her bag and asked if I wanted to check it. This stemmed from an ealier conversation where I reminded her that due to the order we have in place, she cannot take anything from the house and bring it back to our old place that she wants to move into. I thought it was kind of odd. She held the bag in her hand but had something under her hand while she was holding it.
I said, "I don't need to see your bag. It's fine."
I walk away but my curiosity gets the better of me. While she's outside packing the stuff in her van I go and check out the bag.
Low and behold what did I find? The sexy black thong with hearts at the front and back hidden under a pair of pants that I bought for her two years ago. The only underwear in the bag. It's a tiny thing with barely any coverage. There's no other way of saying it...
They are fucking, or have been fucking, or are going to fuck all weekend.
My heart stopped beating for a split second. The rest of what was left of my sanity left my body and I wept uncontrollably.
We were together 4 weeks ago. Now this.
I ask her about it while she's putting her stuff in the car: "ITS JUST UNDERWEAR! It's doesn't mean anything!"
I call her a fucking whore and slam the car door.
Now I'm at home withe the kids. Putting a brave face on. Trying to be the good dad. Watched some TV, going to go to the mall tomorrow for the jump place, having pizza for dinner.
She comes home on Sunday. Probably after being fucked for three straight days.
WHAT THE FUCK. I'm shaking in anger and I'm so fucking tired of this. I'm so tired of being upset and angry. Why how could she do this to me. 14 fucking years and now this. IVE FUCKING HAD IT
ICANNOT TAKE IT ANY FUCKING MORE.
I have no friends. No one to talk to. No one to care about me. No one to give a shit. I just want to talk to someone. Anyone. Anywhere. Please. I'm so fucking alone. I don't want to be alone anymore. It's not fucking fair. IT's not right. That fucking whore. How could she do this to me.
I want it ALL TO END. I can't take one more second of this. People are so tired of listening to me talk about it. So tired of the same stories. Just tell me to move on and stop thinking about her.
Give me a fucking break. My heart is exploding in my chest. I've never ever felt this way. WHY DOES IT HURT SO MUCH? WHY HER? I've been down this road before and it's never hurt this bad. I can't I can't do it anymore I jius cant
I don't knpwd what do to ..
That is too volatile to stay together in the same
house.
I could never have lived together after he asked
For a divorce to be with her. He did not rub my
face In it during our separation either. They went
totally underground and out of sight. Mostly he
Hung out in another town at her place and laid
Low.
Do not let things escalate further, divorce rage
Is some of the worst rage there is. Calm down
You two need to separate. I told my ex no dating
He is a married man And he left to move over to
his mothers House. He thought i would be the one
To leave, HUGS
And no, she didn't "show me what was in her bag". She left the bait and you bit.
Usually having the kids is such a joy as I treasure the limited time I have with them. Last night all I could think about is that she's got the whole weekend to fuck her new boyfriend. I kept having to leave the room so the kids wouldn't see me break down into tears, scream into a pillow or go punch my heavy bag. This morning I pulled some of her hair out of the dryer screen doing laundry and crumpled to the ground screaming. After 18 years together everything reminds me of her.
I don't know how you're doing it living in the same house. My divorce IS final, though the ink is barely dry.
As to the person saying to quit playing that's the route I've decided on. I'm going to co-parent with her and love my kids. She gets NOTHING else from me EVER. It's a small victory for me but I'll take what I can get at this point. Other small victories are doing things for me: eating health, working out, going to a movie, get dental work done. It doesn't matter what it is, just do it for you and put you first for once. I spent so many years putting wife and kids first that I didn't do things for me.
I wish I could tell you how to get through this but I'm not yet. I can give you the 2nd best thing and let you know that you're not alone. I'll never get tired of being there for you and let you know any breakthroughs that I have in the process of surviving.
Date he had to move. His GF would not have
Liked him sleeping under the same roof as his
Wife after he asked for a divorce to be with her.
He was furious he had to go not me. He could
Have stayed living there legally i was not leaving
Until the decree was in place then i left. He had
His business on the property.
He moved over To his mothers house and then
his GF's on the sly with her children there,HUGS
I'd act like it her whereabouts didn't phase me at all. 180 her. Don't feed her ego.